What's Your Anger Type? by Peter Sacco

Author:Peter Sacco
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781634911610
Publisher: DoctorZed Publishing
Published: 2016-02-24T05:00:00+00:00

Fear too is a strong motivator. Alas, fear more often than not causes individuals to act out in random and unplanned ways. Fear acted upon is usually a knee-jerk reaction.

I am sure there are situations when people need to act out of fear for survival, such as tragic situations or when lives are threatened. These are heat-of-the-moment situations which call for immediate action. Even then, looking back on these situations, most people will say they handled the matter as best they could given what they had, but wish they could have had more time to plan.

When I refer to fear as a motivator, I am asserting fear as the prime and only motivating factor for the individual in all situations. They go to work because they fear losing their job. They get married because they are afraid of being alone. They have children because they fear their biological clock is ticking.

They don’t take chances or risks because they are afraid of failure. They settle for mediocrity because they might lose everything they have. They believe it is better to hold on to what they have, and not lose it, than strive for more and take a chance for something better. Throughout life they always stay in the shallowest of ends.

The contradiction about living in fear is that, for a high proportion of people, it becomes comforting and safe. They hold on tooth and toenail to what they’ve got! The thought of taking any kind of risk or chance is discomforting.

Conversely, those with fear as their prime motivator tend to resent the success of others who have taken risks. Here some comments they may use:

•“It’s just a matter of time before his luck runs out.”

•“Life’s not fair!”

•“Some people get all the breaks!”

•“I was dealt a bad hand.”

•“People who play the stock market or speculate are no different from gamblers.”

•“We’re going to pay for this later!”

•“What goes around comes around.”

•“I’m safest behind my four walls.”

•“Hope for the best, but expect the worst.”

•“You can’t fail if you don’t try.”

•“I’d rather keep what I have than take risks to get more.”

•“If it’s meant to be…”

•“No harm no foul.”

•“I don’t believe in taking chances.”

•“I believe I am middle of the road.”

•“I like things plain and simple.”

Imagine living this way? What do you actually have to look forward too, growing old and dying? How depressing! A life motivated by fear creates a sense of learned helplessness. You surrender living and just exist.

Jealousy was an anger type discussed earlier, and is the most likely of all types to be motivated by fear.

People living ultraconservative lives whine and complain about others who are more successful than they are. They ask, “why them and not me?”

My answer to this type of thinking is, why not them? Perhaps they took the chances you were too afraid to take! Don’t be jealous of other’s success because you didn’t get into the game and play ball. As Wayne Gretzky, the champion hockey player, said: “You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.

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