Toxic People Survival Guide: How to Deal with Difficult, Negative, or Manipulative People, Handle Narcissists and Disarm Sociopaths — Even If They Are Your Family, Parents, or Friends by Chase Hill

Author:Chase Hill [Hill, Chase]
Language: eng
Format: azw3
Published: 2021-08-22T16:00:00+00:00

Chapter 9: Navigating the Negativity

Like drama, some people just thrive on negativity. As we have mentioned, most of us will answer “How are you?” with a good or fine, but we all know at least one person who will start an in-depth discussion about everything negative they can think of. It’s draining! However, it is also something that we aren’t able to completely eliminate from our lives, so it is necessary to learn how to steer through this type of toxic behavior. We will begin by looking inside and questioning our own negativity.

Even the Most Positive People Can’t Escape Their Own Negativity

If you are completely honest with yourself, you can admit to having an element of negativity about yourself. That’s not to say that you are spreading that negativity among others, but whether it’s once in a while or more frequently, negative thoughts creep in. You might have health problems or financial problems and of course, we know that there are going to be serious issues with your relationships. Any of these can lead us to questions like “Why me?” or “What did I do to deserve this?.”

You may start to think about the if-onlys. If only I hadn’t fallen for that person or taken this job. After replaying the negativity, you might give yourself a shake and assume that it is what it is and you have no choice.

If you think about things on a larger scale, life is a string of choices — some are easy, others more challenging, but everything is a choice that you get to make. You get to choose what you want for dinner, what time you go to bed, where you go on holiday, and most importantly, the company you keep. From the moment you woke up this morning up to now, how many choices have you made? None of them were probably that difficult.

When we listen to our bodies, the choices are actually easy. If you are craving coffee, you need a caffeine boost because your body is tired, so you choose to make a coffee. Logic will also help us to make choices. If you know you need to put gas in the car, you choose to leave earlier for work.

When it comes to our relationships, our emotions can get in the way, making the choices somewhat cloudy, but at the end of the day, the choice is still there. To overcome your own negativity, you need to take responsibility for your actions and accept the fact that nothing will change unless you make a choice. You chose to read this book, which is a giant step in the right direction. The next choice you have to make is what to do with the information.

“Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy.”

Ralph Marston

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