Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...and It's All Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

Author:Richard Carlson [Dr. Richard Carlson ]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9780786870080
Publisher: Hyperion

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Write Down Your Five Most Stubborn Positions and See if You Can Soften Them

The first time I tried this strategy, I was so stubborn that I insisted that I wasn’t stubborn! Over time, as I have worked toward becoming a gentler person, I have found it far easier to see where I’m being stubborn.

Here are a few examples from my clients: “People who aren’t stressed are lazy.” “My way is the only way.” “Men aren’t good listeners.” “Women spend too much money.” “Children are too much work.” “People in business don’t care about anything except money.” You can see that the list itself is potentially endless. The point here isn’t the specifics of what you are stubborn about but rather the fact that you hold on so tightly to any given idea you might have.

It doesn’t make you weak to soften your positions. In fact, it makes you stronger. I have a male client who was adamant, to the point of being obnoxious about it, that his wife spent too much money. As he relaxed a little, and noticed his own rigidity, he discovered something that he’s now a little embarrassed about, but laughs at. He found out that, in reality, he spent more discretionary money on himself than his wife spent on herself! His objectivity had become muddled by his own rigid belief.

As he has become wiser and gentler, his marriage has improved immensely. Rather than resenting his wife for something she wasn’t even doing, he now appreciates her restraint. She, in turn, feels his new acceptance and appreciation and loves him more than before.

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