What's Your Vibe? by Craig David

Author:Craig David [David, Craig]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781473593114
Publisher: Ebury Publishing
Published: 2022-07-28T00:00:00+00:00

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It was while watching a Pixar movie – Inside Out – that I had an epiphany. For me, this movie contains multitudes. If you’ve seen it, you’ll feel my vibe on this; and if you haven’t, you must. It’s about an 11-year-old girl who has to move from one town to another because of her father’s job, and her reluctance and sadness at having to do so. The movie is set inside her brain, as all five of her main emotions – Anger, Disgust, Fear, Sadness and Joy – jostle with each other as she comes to make sense of, and experience, the big move.

The genius of the storyline – and the genius of Pixar that children and adults can relate to their movies on different levels – is that it makes it crystal clear that we need all of our emotions, not just the positive ones, to navigate through life. That all of our emotions serve a purpose and, if we refuse to face our negative thoughts or keep swerving them by straining to be positive all the time, we will get stuck in certain places. And that, ultimately, while we have little control over our emotions, we can choose what we do about them.

Maybe at certain times in our lives, it takes an animated, brightly-coloured, brilliantly voiced, visual representation of our feelings and emotions to strike a chord and bring home what has been bothering us; to realise that, despite our age and experience and so-called wisdom or insight, it can still be hard to make good decisions because our feelings are so powerful and there are so many fighting to be heard. For me, that centred around my electrifying fear of being negative, of not always exuding positivity.

You know the feeling – telling yourself you have to be Mr/Ms Positive in this thing, but your circumstances are telling you this really isn’t positive and there’s nothing you can do to reframe it to make it instantly right.

I’d lived all my life to that point drowning out any emotion that wasn’t upbeat. I was all about the Outside Out, squashing down my Inside In, but lying on my back with plenty of time to ruminate, I was forced to come to terms with the way I dealt with my emotions, especially the positive and the negative.

I see it like a magnet – if you take a long magnet and you start shaving parts off, however small it gets, it’s still going to have positive and negative polarities. The more you deny that one part doesn’t exist – in my case, negativity – the more you’re just playing yourself and, up to Good Morning America, I played myself thinking there was no such thing as negativity. I was so intent on finding the positive in everything that, in the end – and the end was now – it was unsustainable.

As soon as it hit me that the magnet will always contain the positive and the negative, I realised that

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