Heart of Tantric Sex by Diana Richardson

Author:Diana Richardson
Language: eng
Format: epub, pdf
ISBN: 1-903816-37-8
Publisher: O-Books

Staying conscious in exploration

It is important to know that there are some positions that are simply "dangerous!" It is likely that you drop into them because of the familiarity of falling back into old excitement patterns, but they will be less than satisfying. I found when I was beginning with Tantra that whenever I was penetrated from behind, doggie style, it was so exciting I would lose my awareness. I soon realized it was happening more in my mind than in my body. Now that my presence and sexual awareness are so much stronger, I am able to enjoy that position again without getting lost in excitement or fantasy. Even so, it takes constant alertness to stay in the mysterious here and now, receiving and absorbing the flowing male energy. Many a time I chose to abandon my awareness, and roll happily and blindly down the roller coaster of excitement, having a wonderful time! But gradually I found that being present and in genital communion while in that particular position, with that particular angle of penetration, turned out to be much more ecstatic than the excitement from before.

This is perhaps the most compelling aspect of exploring sex. It is really fun to be making love all the time, slowly coming to understand what is happening, putting together a new picture. Intensity increases as different emotions start to clear out of the body, you feel more available and sensitive and because the emotions arise in the face of love, deep healing is possible. Love washes away the pains of the past, at times with tears, at times with laughter, and at times with silence.

There are certain positions that are simply comfortable, thereby encouraging long periods of lovemaking. Sometimes, it is wonderful to just plug in, close your eyes, relax back, and rest in consciousness for an hour or two (see fig. 13).

The scissors position earlier suggested for soft penetration (with the man lying on his side, the woman on her back, opening her legs and bringing her pelvis to his) is especially good because it is relatively neutral. Nobody is on top and nobody underneath; it is nicely balanced, and more important, comfortable for both. Also, most people can find it with ease, so it can be a relaxing position to start making love.

The man on the top, the classic "doing" or missionary position (see fig. 14), can also be used successfully for "non-doing" and deep penetration. The man simply lies forward or kneels over the woman without thrusting, keeping the penetration deep and still. The woman can raise her legs, curling her pelvis upward to facilitate the penetration. From here it is easy to roll to one side or the other as a unit, maintaining deep vaginal contact. Using pillows to make the position comfortable, the man lies between the woman's legs and the couple face each other on their sides. These positions are also good for cleansing and healing of the genitals, where deep penetration is needed.

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