Bluefishing by Steve Sims

Author:Steve Sims
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: North Star Way

SAY NO TO VAMPIRES

No gives you the ability to fire people. You can fire anyone. Not just employees, but clients and customers too. You can even fire friends.

There are a lot of people in my life, the fantastic, good people that I like to be near just because they make me smile. There are people who are just good people to be with. I want to be clear about how simple this is. You drive a car because it makes sense. You wear an outfit because it makes you feel good. You have a friend because you enjoy each other. If you don’t, why are you pretending to be friends?

Here’s the dumbest thing in the world. You know you have a bad relationship with someone, but you tolerate it because, “I grew up with her,” or “I work with them,” or “She’s my wife’s best friend.” You tolerate that relationship and you kid yourself that hey, it’s just one bad relationship, it doesn’t affect any of the others. That’s where kidding yourself comes in, because the second that person’s head pops up in your life, you go down. That person sucks something out of you, and the residue from that negativity lingers and hurts you for the rest of your day. How do you think you’re going to start your next meeting? You don’t go into it high. You don’t go into it passionate. You don’t go into it with generosity and love. You go into it with contempt or exhaustion.

You may really like the next person you’re meeting with, but you’re still stuck in a bad place. That person is going to pick up on it. He’s going to think, “Oh, Steve’s in a bit of a strange mood, he seems really off, is it something I’ve done?” That’s not something you want someone feeling. Ever. If you’re meeting with someone, you want to give them all of your energy and attention. You want them to feel good and confident around you, not back on their heels thinking they’ve done something wrong. The bad relationships you tolerate will start to poison all the other good relationships you have.

For example, I had to fire someone important to my team. She was our top salesperson. I knew the company would lose money for the next two months without her. Worse, I had known her for five years. I knew her birthdays; I knew her favorite foods, her favorite drink. In any working relationships, you open up to each other and you have a bond. But no matter what we did, every now and then, the bond would go sour, and then it continued to go sour. It was always an effort and a massive distraction to try to get it back on track. When there’s more effort than good times, you know it’s wrong.

Firing her wasn’t easy, but I was immediately happier when she left. Not financially, but mentally. Removing that relationship added equity to my overall enthusiasm. I didn’t have to get into a funked space by her texts or talk or negative energy knocking me off my game.

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