You and I, as Mothers by Laura Prepon

Author:Laura Prepon
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Abrams
Published: 2020-04-07T00:00:00+00:00

However, right before Ella was born, my husband and I moved our lives from LA to the East Coast. I had spent a lot of time there because I grew up in New Jersey, and Orange was shot in Queens, but after I left home at a young age, I never intended to move back east full-time. While working in New York, I rarely went out, except for the occasional outing with a fellow cast member (which was great), but I didn’t have a community; most of my Mom Squad lived back in California, and of all the things I missed from my LA life, getting together with them was at the top of the list.

I tried to avoid my ache for my friends, and I lived in a certain amount of denial for a while. I mean, hey, I had my partner, and we were building our family, which I’d wanted my whole life, so what was the problem?

But when Ella was almost two years old, Ben went away to shoot two movies, back-to-back, in Eastern Europe. Living on the East Coast meant we were that much closer for stealing visits with each other, but it was during Ben’s absence that my lack of a local community really began to dawn on me.

I would FaceTime with friends back in LA, and although screen-to-screen communication would suffice, nothing compared to getting together with a friend in real life.

But I was fine! Right?

The truth was, I was struggling with the adjustment to the East Coast. Sometimes I even resented our decision to live there, and I would blame Ben for making us leave our lives back in LA. But that wasn’t true, and I was being unfair. We had made the decision together and I was simply wrestling with my grief. As my mother always taught me, I am responsible for my decisions, but I wasn’t owning them, and that wasn’t cool.

It was then that I decided to really build a life here. And that included community.

But how?

I was invited to a dinner; it would be a group of working moms getting together to talk about motherhood—what they loved about it as well as their struggles. It seemed like a safe place to break bread, have a glass of wine, and share.

My first instinct was to say no. I didn’t need that! I only knew the women throwing it and just barely. But after getting a pep talk from my husband—still filming in Europe—I decided to go.

Suddenly feeling shy, I walked in tentatively. The party was in a beautifully lit room with a dining table in the center, elegantly laid. Candles flickered, and glasses of wine and champagne were being handed out. Luckily, one of the women I knew saw me right away and waved me over.

About thirty women mingled in the room. I was introduced to three of them, all working mothers in various interesting industries. The first woman I spoke to had a daughter Ella’s age, and although the

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