50 Ways to Soothe Yourself Without Food by Susan Albers

Author:Susan Albers
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781608820436
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

17. the Scarlett O’Hara approach

How do I sabotage my diet? I have a hundred different ways. But the one that gets me into the most trouble is when I use food to stall. If I want to procrastinate, I suddenly feel that I really need a snack. I can waste a lot of time poking around the kitchen getting a snack.

—Ellen

“I can’t think about that now. I’ll think about it tomorrow.” These are the famous words of Scarlet O’Hara from the classic novel Gone with the Wind. She was actually juggling quite a bit of stress: being caught in the middle of a war-torn country, losing (she thought) the love of her life to another woman, and marrying men she didn’t love for financial stability. It was a lot for a girl to handle. So what did she do? She decided that she couldn’t worry about some of it right then. Mentally, Scarlett put her worries on an imaginary shelf, and she took them out only when she was ready to handle them.

Shelving a problem is different from avoiding or ignoring it. Shelving a problem means to approach the issue strategically and commit to dealing with it at a specific time. As the saying has it, Timing is everything. This idea is quite like putting away the pictures of your ex after a difficult breakup. When you’re upset, pictures can trigger mournful thoughts and keep you stuck in dwelling on the breakup. When you’re ready to see them without becoming depressed, you can look at them again.

~self-soothing technique~

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