Handwritten Notes: Learn How a Small, Powerful Act Can Enrich Your Life by Pierce Carrie

Author:Pierce, Carrie [Pierce, Carrie]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2022-10-18T00:00:00+00:00

Ask yourself, does this note contain anything that criticizes, condemns, or complains? If so, get rid of it.

The only exception to this rule is when you’re writing an apology note. Nobody’s perfect, and certainly I’ve written my fair share of apology letters. It can feel pretty good for everyone involved to get an apology onto paper and out into the world. With these notes, the point is still to give the other person the stage, to acknowledge how you’ve impacted them, what their inconvenience was. Apology notes 2.0 (really great apology notes) also include how you plan to make it up to them. If you’ve made a mistake, you’re humbling yourself, so in this instance talking a little in terms of yourself will be okay.

Step 8: Reviewing what you wrote—is it honest and sincere?

This last step is the most important. You can’t ever put enough emphasis on sincerity in your notes. An insincere note will not make a strong connection. And it’s hard. This is why writing a good note takes so much thought.

You’re going to run into some folks who are harder than others to write sincere, positive things about. For example, you might have a coworker who treats you poorly. Challenge yourself to stop and think about the person until you have something sincere and positive to write. If you can’t write why you enjoy working with them, maybe say instead I always enjoy walking by your desk and seeing all of your beautiful vacation pictures, you’re really a jet-setter. Or, I admire how loyal you are to the company having worked here for 20 years. Finding something true and positive to write makes a positive impact, and it also serves as a good reminder that when people are tough to work with, they’re still humans who deserve kindness.

Interestingly, a few times when I’ve written these sorts of notes to people who have treated me poorly, people have responded with an apology. They all had their individual scenarios but treating them with kindness made them see they weren’t on their best behavior much more clearly than a bitter reply to them would. One person explained to me how they were under a large amount of stress, and unwittingly did whatever it took to get through the day. I had given them grace and shown kindness and sincerity, and in return, they had returned that kindness and sincerity back to me.

Step 9: Let it go

That’s it. Send your note off into the world. You can post it on your kid’s bathroom mirror, slip it into your husband’s lunch bag, or stamp it and drop it in the mail. Sounds easy, right? But often, this last step can be surprisingly tough. We hold so much inside us and we’re often so afraid to show our true selves. If you’ve done this right, then you’re probably feeling a little vulnerable right now. This is completely normal. We’ve been trained our whole lives to be careful with how much of ourselves we let others see.

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