Ask! by Mark Victor Hansen

Author:Mark Victor Hansen
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: N/A
Publisher: Post Hill Press
Published: 2020-02-28T00:00:00+00:00

Nurture Intimate Relationships—by Asking

Our intimate, romantic relationships provide the emotional foundation upon which we rely for stability and security in our lives. Because of that, they are perhaps the most important area to constantly practice and hone our asking skills. If we can’t clearly communicate our needs to our beloved, it eventually leaves us feeling disappointed and lonely. Ultimately, this leads to resentment and distance between two people who originally intended to become ever closer. Somehow, the concept of asking in other areas of life seems more acceptable. But when it comes to asking for something from the person with whom we have an intimate relationship, we expect them to be psychic. We tell ourselves things like:

“He should know that by now.”

“She should see how that bothers me.”

“I’ve told him before what types of gifts I want. I shouldn’t have to keep telling him.”

“She should understand how hard I work and acknowledge me for it.”

“He should know that makes me uncomfortable.”

As a rule, if we don’t ask, we’re not going get what we want. Asking can make us feel more vulnerable and less in control, but a willingness to ask is crucial to your relationship success and satisfaction. A negative response to your question may have nothing to do with you. The person you’re asking might be in a bad mood. People do the best they can from their own state of consciousness.

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