Yes! Energy by Loral Langemeier

Author:Loral Langemeier
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Hay House, Inc.
Published: 2012-02-20T16:00:00+00:00

Those who judge other people’s lives do so because they themselves are uncertain and grasping for some semblance of control. The whole idea of snooping around in other people’s business—of reading tabloids, of gossiping—is not only a waste of time, but it contaminates energy with negativity, which slows you down.

Interesting, too, is the fact that in addition to being uncomfortable being judged, people have a similar discomfort with being complimented. The fear of criticism and the fear of being put on a pedestal both lead a person away from certainty into hesitation and immobility.

When you are confident and certain, you know what you know, so judgment doesn’t hurt, and compliments are not awkward. Yet so few people claim their personal power, or their knowledge of who they are. In fact, most folks who observe me as I receive a compliment find themselves laughing that my thank-you is usually accompanied by a look that relays agreement.

“That was gutsy,” someone once said when I affirmed a compliment.

“Was it?” I asked. It made me wonder if confidence and certainty have gotten lost in that unclaimed gap between arrogance and a false humility. I hold honesty, with myself and others, in high regard. If I’ve made an effort, through health and fitness, to look better, I’m going to accept, appreciate, and own any compliments I receive.

John Gray put it perfectly in his book What You Feel, You Can Heal. He said:

When you love yourself in the presence of others, you are able to express your inner gifts and talents without fear or restriction. The more you love yourself, the more you are able to come out. The more you come out, the easier it is for people to appreciate the real you, and not the image you project or the mask you wear. The more people appreciate and love you, the more you can love yourself. It is a cycle of increasing love and true self-expression.

Yet, over and over again, people choose to play small, even with themselves.

When you lead your life with confidence and certainty, and not arrogance, you are your own CEO. You, the CEO of your life, must be committed to following a mission statement of the type found in various business books. I work off a variation on the idea set forth in Built to Last: Successful Habits of Visionary Companies, by Jim Collins and Jerry Porras:

• Purpose: This is an objective you never check off. It’s the underlying theme, or idea, of your life.

• Mission: These are specific short- and long-term goals you check off, in service of your purpose. Collins and Porras named some of these BHAGs— Big Hairy Audacious Goals.

• Narrative: This is the look and feel of how you move through your journey. This comes to be your identity.

• Values: When you lead your life, what you are must be aligned with who you are.

Managing your life with confidence and certainty allows the right energy and attitudes to come in. Extreme energy fuels purpose and identity. Extreme optimism keeps the mission on target.

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