What you feel, you can heal : a guide for enriching relationships by Gray John 1951-

Author:Gray, John, 1951-
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Interpersonal relations, Interpersonal communication
Publisher: Mill Valley, Calif. : Heart Pub.
Published: 1994-11-13T16:00:00+00:00

Chapter 8 The Heart Techniques

The techniques in the following section of this book have assisted thousands of people in learning to dissolve their emotional tensions and resolve the inevitable conflicts of relationships. If if weren't for these techniques, thousands of couples I have worked with wouldn't be loving and cooperating — not because they don't love each other, but because the tensions and conflicts of being in an intimate relationship or of ending an intimate relationship would be too much to handle. Understanding why you are fighting (the See Saw Effect and the Four R's) is great, but it is not enough. Knowing what to do about it and how to resolve the tension and come back to loving is what will really enrich your relationships and keep them working.

I suggest you practice everything described in this chapter on a daily basis. You may ask, "Why do I need to use these techniques if I don't feel I have big problems?" The answer is that by using these techniques, the little, every day tensions won't build up and develop into major problems. The moment you notice tension or resistence building in your relationships, or any lessening of feeling fully connected, these techniques and skills can be used in order to prevent the emotional separation from expanding and coming between you and your loved ones. Taking care of your relationships consistently will keep them healthy, and support you in staying in touch with your inner positive feelings — love, confidence and happiness.

TTie moment you feel slight resistance to the other person, this is the time to put the problem aside and practice one of the following Heart Techniques:

1. The Duplication Technique

2. The Anger Process

3. The Love Letter Technique

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