Under the Sheets by Kevin Leman

Author:Kevin Leman [Leman, Kevin]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: FAM030000, FAM029000
ISBN: 9781441237217
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Published: 2010-09-30T14:30:00+00:00

You need to shoot straight with your thickheaded guy. Tell him frankly that you feel used when he treats you like that, and it doesn’t make you very interested in having sex with him. What would make you very interested, however, is if he showed he cared about your day, and if he did something to show he thought of you and had your best interests in mind.

Good luck. Guys can be dumb, but if you “edumacate” them (as an old Iowa grandpa once told me), they can learn quick.

Q: My wife seems so tired and overwhelmed lately. We haven’t had sex much, and I can’t blame her. She has a lot on her plate. But I sure miss the sex. Any suggestions to help us until life settles down?

A: I’m glad you asked. Ever heard of the phrase, “Sex begins in the kitchen”? That’s one I coined years ago in my book by the same name. I bet you’d find its ideas right up your alley.

In that book I talk about the fact that a man is wise to make love to his wife outside the bedroom. What does that mean? It means he’s a helper. He changes diapers, he does laundry, he helps with homework, and he tucks the kids into bed. He knows all the women in the carpool, and he sometimes even drives the kids to school. He’s a good daddy and an attentive husband. He listens to his wife talk about her day, because he knows it’s important to her and because they share one heart. He shares with her details about his day, because he knows she needs to know to stay close to his heart. He uses his authority to protect, serve, and pleasure his wife.

You see, every day your wife is taking emotional and mental notes on how you are treating her and your children (if you have them). Those feelings have everything to do with how available and willing she’ll be to meet you in the bedroom, even for a quickie.

How are you doing in the area of sex outside the bedroom? Are there ways in which you could take some of the burden from your wife so she could reserve some time for you?

That’s what love, partnership—marriage—is all about.

Q: We have three kids—all teens. My wife just can’t seem to relax at night to have sex. She always wonders what they’re up to. So, any ideas? Other than waiting until the kids are in college?

A: Does your wife have a reason to be worried about your children? If so, that’s another issue! And one you’d best immediately address. But you’re right—waiting until they’re in college isn’t an option.

Kids of any age can be great interrupters of sex. After all, they are concerned only about themselves. I always call them “hedonistic little suckers,” and they most often prove that to be true. So it’s time to create some basic rules and safeguards.

Lock your bedroom door so you don’t have to worry about getting caught in the raw.

Download

Copyright Disclaimer:
This site does not store any files on its server. We only index and link to content provided by other sites. Please contact the content providers to delete copyright contents if any and email us, we'll remove relevant links or contents immediately.