The Fountain of Truth by Gene James

Author:Gene James
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
Published: 2013-04-19T04:00:00+00:00

PART THREE:

A Fresh Look at Anti-aging

Truths As Old As Dirt

Forty-something Hollis Wilder appears to effortlessly bridge superbeautiful, supersavvy and supermogul. A wife, mother of two, successful businesswoman, and owner of cupcake stores Sweet! by Holly, Hollis is best known as two-time winner of Cupcake Wars and star of the Cooking Channel. She has also written a sure-to-be-bestseller cookbook, Savory Bites: Meals You Can Make in Your Cupcake Pan. Talk about a paradigm shifter: cupcake pans as our template for healthy portion control!

“Getting older is not easy but it’s worth it. I like myself more every decade, and I’m told I look better and better with time,” Hollis said firmly. “I attribute my positive aging to three things. The first is that I am clear on the fact that I am a product, a consequence, of my choices. You know, the whole ‘reap what you sow’ philosophy. I clearly own the truth that who I am, who I become, is up to my attitude, my preparation, and my effort. My life continues to improve because I choose to be tenaciously positive regardless of setbacks or sad things that happen, and I work hard at the other stuff too . . . health and lifestyle choices upping my ante of being sharp, svelte, and super-fun at fifty, sixty, seventy, and beyond. The second is I have a tight group of girlfriends. They know me. They both have my back and call me on my crap. My girlfriends are my go-to lifeline. The third is I am honest about the squirrelly stuff.”

“What does that mean?” I put my pen down and leaned in.

“Let’s first clarify what it means to get better, not older. Enviable women have lives that, on most days, overflow with meaning, love, joy, and good health. I say ‘most days’ because we all have bad days, live on a flawed planet, and know sad things happen to good people. For the most part, however, women who feel and look great no matter their age experience life on the upswing. My experience is that women aging poorly have individual versions of sad, squirrelly little secrets. They constantly blame their less-than-optimum personal circumstance on others or bad luck. They play life out as victims. They whine. Women aging poorly might say they want a fit body and good health, but their actions tell another story. Maybe it’s drinking too much or food bingeing. Maybe it’s choosing mindless television over an hour of exercise. Maybe it’s staying in a dysfunctional marriage. Maybe it’s overspending. It doesn’t matter. I am convinced that the lies we tell ourselves and act out every day accelerate our decay.”

Hollis mirrored what I heard from hundreds of women aging in enviable fashion: We are the consequence of our individual choices and actions. This mind-set is psychologically termed a “strong internal locus of control.” Conversely, people with an “external locus of control” believe the quality of their life depends on luck and other people. They are the whiners and victims.

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