The Dadly Book of Open by Jason Mackenzie

Author:Jason Mackenzie [MacKenzie, Jason]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Motivational Press
Published: 2016-11-16T23:00:00+00:00

Chapter 5

Apply the Open Book Policy

The Open Book Policy means having a bias toward openness and transparency. It is a course of action and series of choices which will create deeper levels of honesty in your life. Instead of automatically hiding your true self, you actively choose authenticity. Choose to tell yourself the truth about you. Choose who you will be and share that person without reservation.

A few years ago, if someone had told me the path to courage, strength, and wisdom would require me baring my soul, I would have run for the hills. That notion was so far from my ingrained way of thinking that I would have dismissed it as absurd. It was contrary to the way I had chosen to live my life, and, at the time, I was still convinced I was getting great results. Remember, by “great results”, I meant a very distorted view of “good enough.”

The Open Book Policy doesn’t mean telling everyone every single thing that goes on in your head. You’ll become the person who never creates space for anyone else to share their stories. Your self-centered stream of consciousness will rob anyone of having a chance to talk about anything but you. The unwillingness to listen is the exact opposite of vulnerability. It’s insufferable self-absorption. It won’t be long before you’ll be talking to yourself. Those voices you’ll hear talking back to you? They’ll be the echoes of your own voice, bouncing off the walls of the empty room you’ll create.

Our M.O. is usually to hide first, and then open up when we have triple-checked to make sure everything is safe. That won’t serve us well at all on our journey to becoming the best men and fathers we can be. It’s time to change how we view ourselves, and how we live our lives. Making different choices about how to interact with people will produce different outcomes. That’s common sense. Making the choice to be more open and vulnerable will create so many more opportunities for you to become a legendary father.

I never thought about being more open. I thought I was open enough already. I was more than willing to share what I was thinking. The problem was that it typically involved pointing out what I was doing right and you were doing wrong. My problem was that I never stopped to consider there might be a different way of looking at the world. The fundamental flaw in my thinking: I wasn’t open enough with myself to admit there might be a better way of conducting my life.

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