Personality Hacker by Joel Mark Witt

Author:Joel Mark Witt
Language: eng
Format: epub, azw3
ISBN: 9781612437798
Publisher: Ulysses Press
Published: 2018-08-09T16:00:00+00:00

The Driver/10-Year-Old Loop

There are three ways an ISTJ experiences the loop, the echo chamber–like relationship between the Driver and 10-Year-Old functions. The way to get out of a loop is the same in all cases: focus on developing the Effectiveness process and let the 10-Year-Old serve the Copilot.

Short-term loop. This may only last for a few moments up to a few days. Its intent is to protect the ISTJ from information that could be emotionally distressing in the moment. If someone respected or close to them hurts their feelings, they can use the loop to build a fortress of pride. Instead of its usual role of understanding, Memory holds onto a grudge, and 10-Year-Old Authenticity supports the animosity by believing the offender was either deliberately malicious or capriciously careless. Either way, pride won’t allow the ISTJ to crack in front of the culprit, even if that person happens to be a lover or trusted friend. Difficult conversations—the ones that would help smooth the situation over—are avoided, and the ISTJ licks their wounds in private.

Long-term loop. This is a loop of hiding from responsibility. This is usually in contexts when life requires something from the ISTJ that feels bigger or more demanding than it “should be,” causing the ISTJ to become overwhelmed. This loop is marked by avoidance and a belief that they shouldn’t have to do anything they don’t feel like doing. They’ll know when they’re ready, they’ll claim; don’t push them. A little pride may show up here, too. If pushed too hard, the result can be a feeling of disdain. Avoiding responsibilities doesn’t make them go away; it exacerbates them. What seems overwhelming at first can become a serious problem later in life. At its worst, it can turn into panic.

Habitual loop. This is possibly the most challenging loop to overcome: rigidity. This loop of rigidity encourages the ISTJ to stick with the familiar, digging their heels in and rejecting anything that challenges their worldview.

The biggest challenge with rigidity is that there’s no incremental, measurable way to determine if a new concept or person is valid. Authenticity has become their metric: New information is judged by how it makes the ISTJ feel. Even when feedback tells them this person or situation is perfectly acceptable, the ISTJ may reject them to avoid dealing with uncomfortable feelings within, such as prejudices and misconceptions.

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