Overthinking: How to Stop Worrying, Overcome Anxiety and Eliminate all Negative Thinking by Jonathan Lee Mindset Editions

Author:Jonathan Lee Mindset Editions [Mindset Editions, Jonathan Lee]
Language: eng
Format: azw3
Published: 2021-03-17T16:00:00+00:00

We spoke earlier about ruminating about the past and how it can make you feel mentally overcome.

When you think of the past, you may remember that many of your thoughts are connected to the present.

You replay awkward or hurtful conversations. You live in a broken relationship or a lost love. Perhaps you think of children who grew up and moved out of home, friends who drifted away or siblings who feel detached with longing and sorrow.

Perhaps you experienced such intense and damaging relationship pain that you never recovered, and it continues to interrupt your life and destroy your thoughts. Unresolved rage, embarrassment, remorse, fear, and sorrow may be triggered by these memories.

Since relationships are very vital to our lives, it is not surprising that people from our past tend to cause us pain for weeks, months or even years after the termination of a meeting or relationship. You watch these "mind games" so often that you begin to know them. This way, to drag the past around is a tremendous burden that drains you from strength and inner peace.

Often, we revisit past problems in an unconscious effort to fix them but ruminating just keeps us in the past. Why do we free ourselves from living in the past so that they don't hold us in jail or bind us to those that shouldn't belong to our lives anymore?

"We will learn to break the cycle of storing and perpetuating old emotion by flashing our wings and, in metaphorical terms, refreshing mentally from focusing on past events, whether yesterday or 30 years ago.” – Eckhart Tolle, author of “The Power of Now.”

We should learn not to keep circumstances or things alive but to turn our focus to the pure, timeless moment, rather than to be trapped in mental film making.

It's difficult to literally put down traumatic memories and drive them out of our minds. Difficult ...but not impossible.

So, definitely worth the effort, if in your current life you want to free yourself to enjoy healthy, loving relationships. You cannot remain stuck in your thoughts on past relationships and old hurts if you want to be present today with your family and friends.

Here are some ways to get rid of the uncertainty and negative thoughts about the past: fix what you can.

- Resolve What You Can

In case you have an issue that has not been resolved or you have harmed another person, take action to solve the situation. Rather than concentrate on the past problem, start communication with others, even if you feel that you are "wronged." It is difficult to reach someone who has hurt you, but the discomfort is much lower than the slow torment of being in the past.

Feelings of anger or hurt can make open discussion hard, so learn more about healthy communication so that you can have a productive conversation with someone else.

Part of the resolution might be to share your feelings and pain, listen to the perspective of the other person, offer or ask to forgive, and discuss the future of the relationship.

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