How to Talk to Anyone About Anything: Improve Your Social Skills, Master Small Talk, Connect Effortlessly, and Make Real Friends (Communication Skills Training Book 7) by James W. Williams

Author:James W. Williams [W. Williams, James]
Language: eng
Format: azw3, epub
Published: 2021-04-14T16:00:00+00:00

Chapter Seven – Intricate Ways to Be More Charismatic

“Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can’t buy. It’s an invisible energy with visible effects.” — Marianne Williamson

What does charisma mean to you?

Google defines charisma as being the quality of personal magnetism and charm that you’ve probably experienced several times in your life. Those are people who speak, and you listen to, and you just can’t help but think, Damn, this person is cool. I want to spend more time with this person and explore what they have to offer.

I saw this “charm” in the sales industry all the time. I would go into meetings with clients and would listen to companies that would come pitch to us or us to them, and some of the people I saw would have you hanging on their every word from the moment they opened their mouths. They were just so good at public speaking. When they finished, it was like being snapped back into reality, and I was left questioning where I’ve been the last hour.

Being around a charismatic person is more like an experience than a conversation .

Maybe you’ve met a boy or girl in a bar and started chatting with them, only to find yourself lost in the experience of them just being, well, them. It doesn’t matter how long that experience lasts; you’re always left wanting more. They leave an imprint that you don’t forget.

If you’ve watched television shows like Mad Men, the Queen’s Gambit, and even Friends, you’ll know that charisma doesn’t just come in the standard big ego kind of way. It’s not just men in suits who know their industry inside out or women in attractive dresses who act mysterious and subtle that hold people’s attention. Very far from it. Perhaps these are traditional views on charisma, but nowadays, these are outdated and barely relevant.

Charisma comes in all different shapes and sizes, and even someone who you may consider a “book nerd,” for example, could have so much charisma when it comes to talking about their favorite characters, plot lines, and endings. So, how do you tap into your own pool of charisma? How do you charm others and make them, essentially, attracted to you and the energy you have to offer the world?

Just like small talk and listening, this is a skill that can be learned by understanding a few core truths .

You Own the Situation

What’s the one thing that the charismatic people in your life have never been?

Well, they probably have at some points in their lives, but I mean, at the time they were charismatic, what were they not?

I’ll give you a clue. It’s that same feeling you get when you’re about to get on a roller coaster, and you don’t know what’s going to happen. Is it going to be fun or scary? Are you going to shout or scream? Are you going to pee yourself or throw up? God forbid either hits the kid behind you if you do. Yeah, I’m not a massive fan of theme parks, if you can’t tell.

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