How to Make Someone Fall in Love with You in 90 Minutes or Less by Nicholas Boothman

Author:Nicholas Boothman
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Workman Publishing
Published: 2014-08-10T16:00:00+00:00

Making the Most of the First Few Moments

Tom, a mutual friend, introduces Karen and Patrick to each other when they both happen to be in his real estate office early one morning. Tom’s a sociable guy and he knows how to make introductions, so the conversation starts flowing.

“I don’t know if you two have ever met,” he says. “Karen, this is my friend Patrick. We play tennis together, and I usually let him win! Patrick, this is my old friend Karen. We bumped into each other over the weekend. It must be five years at least since you left town for the high life, wouldn’t you say?”

“About that,” she replies. Then Karen turns to face Patrick, makes eye contact, smiles, and offers her hand. “Hello, Patrick, it’s a pleasure to meet you.”

Patrick looks Karen in the eye, smiles, shakes her hand (not too firm, not too limp), and says, “What a lovely way to start the day!”

Karen grins, “Thank you. Are you this charming on the tennis court?”

“Look,” says Tom, “I just have to make a quick call. Why don’t you two grab some coffee—it’s freshly brewed—and I’ll be right back.”

“A lot can happen in five years,” Patrick remarks as they move toward the coffeepot. “Where did you escape to?” His tone is courteous, charming, and interested—he’s been paying attention. “I hope you’ve been having fun.”

“Most of the time. Being on call twelve hours a day and dealing with really grumpy people may not be everybody’s idea of fun, but I love what I do.”

“Coffee?” asks Patrick.

“Yes, please. Black.”

“Let me guess. You’re a doctor and you’ve been working with the Peace Corps.”

“You’re a funny guy.” Karen is laughing and relaxed. “No, I’m not,” she chuckles, “What about you? You’re in real estate, I guess.”

Patrick shakes his head, “No. At least not in the way you’re probably thinking.”

“You’re a tennis pro?”

“Wouldn’t that be nice!” Patrick laughs. “But now that you mention it, what ball are we volleying here?”

“I don’t know,” Karen says coyly, looking at Patrick over the rim of her coffee cup, “but it’s fun.”

You’ve heard the expression “Never look a gift horse in the mouth”? In plain English, it means make the most of your opportunities. Karen and Patrick were lucky that Tom gave them something to work with when he introduced them, and they were both paying enough attention to use the information to banter back and forth and set a playful tone. They also used body language, facial expressions, laughter, feedback, and lightheartedness to fan the spark of an introduction into the flame of a conversation.

Both Patrick and Karen were ready, willing, and able to make the most of their first few moments. Karen exhibited a “you never know” attitude and chose an attractive, playful, and charming attitude, acknowledging the introduction, and making a great first impression. Patrick also did all the right things: He maintained Tom’s upbeat and positive tone, then turned their first moments together into a game by riffing on the remark about Karen’s five-year absence, introducing an air of mystery.

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