How to Fall Out of Love Workbook by Kosjenka Muk

Author:Kosjenka Muk
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 0
Publisher: Kosjenka Muk
Published: 2016-03-15T00:00:00+00:00

Part 2: EXERCISES

Introduction

Our deepest (unconscious) limiting beliefs (such as: I'm not OK; I don't deserve; I'm not lovable; I cannot trust people) can be opposite of what we consciously believe. Still, they influence our behavior, especially in stressful situations. Most people can to recognize such beliefs if they exercise feeling their subtle emotions, as well as observing patterns in their behavior and reactions.

The earlier a belief is created, the stronger its influence. Early beliefs become like filters for subsequent experiences and influence how we interpret them. Thus a stable belief structure is slowly created, which, as we grow up, becomes so normal that we rarely if ever question it.

Such beliefs can be adopted following our parents' and caretakers' examples, or during unpleasant experiences that a small child cannot understand. Children perceive the world as "black and white", i.e., they are likely to create extreme conclusions. As they also perceive themselves as the cause of other people's behavior, such extreme conclusions are usually related to their own selves.

Toxic emotions and beliefs are usually triggered when some external details remind us of painful experiences in the past. Then we can react with irrational, exaggerated emotions and behavior. We can have unrealistic expectations of other people and try to get from them what we couldn't get from our parents. It's like parts of us are stuck in the past and are not likely to change under influence of rational insight or external experiences. People can read many insightful books, create relationships with people who love and support them, but in most cases, it doesn't help enough.

These exercises are designed with the intention to reach parts of your unconscious mind and help those parts reframe specific past experiences and change their beliefs.

The following exercises, being introspective, will likely appeal to introverts. If you are an extrovert, you might feel restless without enough external stimuli. Still, I suggest that you persist. It's worthwhile for an extrovert to develop some "introverted" skills, same as the other way around. This can help your life become more fulfilling and successful.

The exercises in this workbook are primarily based on the method Soulwork Systemic Coaching, which incorporates elements of psychodrama, working with inner child, modeling, visualization and working with metaphors. I only use simpler elements of Soulwork Systemic Coaching in this workbook, as more complex issues are very individual and require expert guidance. Please contact [email protected] if you want individual sessions.

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