Hack your mating: An evolutionary psychologist's guide to a life of sexual abundance by Vakirtzis Tony & Vakirtzis Tony

Author:Vakirtzis, Tony & Vakirtzis, Tony [Vakirtzis, Tony]
Language: eng
Format: azw3, azw
Publisher: Old Marston Press
Published: 2018-02-11T16:00:00+00:00

Figure 4. Probability of a date with women of different mate values

Your chances of a date with a 1 are quite high, but you probably wouldn't be interested in dating these women. For the 2s your chances would be a bit lower but still high. Your chances keep on dropping, decile group after decile group, until you reach the top group, the 10s. These very desirable women would be unlikely to go out with you. Most of them will probably be already taken, and even if they’re not they will probably be looking to date someone more desirable than you. But the key word here is probably - even with these women your chances will always be something more than zero. There might be the odd 10 who just broke up and will welcome the opportunity to go out with any normal guy, just to take her mind off her ex for a while. Or there will be the odd 10 who likes men that look like her father, and you happen to bear a remarkable resemblance to him. Or she might be new in town and looking for company or feeling bored. Remember these are women who, like most people, rely on a very small and inefficient social circle for meeting mates. But most commonly the woman in this group who will say yes will have a poorly calibrated mate value sociometer. She might be inexperienced, without enough opportunities to receive sufficient feedback on her attractiveness. Or she might have dated bad boys who damaged her self-esteem and left her with a negative self-image that does not match how other people see her.

Now let's say you are interested in more than a date, namely sex. Your chances of having sex with a 10 will be even lower, because sex is one or two stages further down the assessment pathway than a date. Here you are looking at a fraction of the already small subset of 10s who would agree to a date. But for many of the reasons described above - and perhaps some additional ones - there will be some small percentage of 10s who after agreeing to a date will also sleep with you.

What if you wanted to make one of these women your girlfriend? Here your chances are even slimmer, as we have gone a long way down the meat grinder of sequential mate choice. Now you’re looking at a fraction of the already small subset of 10s who would agree to date you and have sex with you. These women are so few and far between that if you live the rest of your life like most men, without taking the action described here, you will almost certainly never meet one of them. Figure 5 shows your three sets of probabilities – for a date, or sex, or a relationship - with women of various desirability levels.

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