First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors by Laura Doyle & Laura Doyle

Author:Laura Doyle & Laura Doyle [Doyle, Laura]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781940363967
Publisher: BenBella Books, Inc.

1. What am I afraid of?

2. Is my fear realistic?

3. Can I actually control the situation?

4. Is it worth the intimacy it would cost me to try to control?

When you feel the urge to control, try asking yourself these questions first to empower yourself to make a choice about whether to say what’s on the tip of your tongue or to focus on your own happiness and self-care instead.

CHAPTER 13

Stay on Your Own Paper

Marriage counseling invites you to focus on what your husband is doing, what he’s thinking, and what he wants, taking the focus away from your own actions, thoughts, and desires. It’s a forum for criticism, blame, and shame. It perpetuates the myth, “If only he would change, I would finally be happy.”

Intimacy skills train you to stay laser-focused on where your power is: on your own paper. Instead of trying to control others, you pay attention to how you feel and what you want. That’s the critical data you need to inform your decisions and actions for the relationship—not what he’s doing or thinking.

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