Believe in You by Christina Cimorelli

Author:Christina Cimorelli
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Thomas Nelson
Published: 2019-08-29T00:00:00+00:00

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I told this boy that I wanted to save my first kiss for my wedding day, and he laughed.

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I can only speak from my own experience, but I want to say that if you are thinking of saving yourself for marriage, or even saving your first kiss like me, I encourage you with all of my heart to do so. It’s a very personal decision, and I think it’s something you have to have a very strong reason for (like a promise to God and to yourself). Otherwise it’s not going to happen. Also, I suggest doing some research—something that has really helped me develop physical boundaries. I read several books, including If You Really Loved Me by Jason Evert, How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul by Jason and Crystalina Evert, and Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge, as well as studied St. John Paul II’s incredible work called Theology of the Body. Those books were so important to me when I was making my decision.

Your physical boundaries are your choice, not the guy’s you are dating. It’s so important for us girls to speak up and be extremely clear about what we will and will not do in dating as early as possible. Before I met my boyfriend, I used to tell guys within the first couple of dates, “I am saving myself for marriage, and I am also saving my first kiss for my wedding day.” You could also use clear language like, “I am saving sex for marriage and that also includes anything below the belt. I am okay with kissing and holding hands, but that’s all. I don’t want to go any further.” I know that might feel awkward or blunt, but your body is so precious and worth it. You have to stand up for yourself, and let me be clear—you do not owe a guy anything. If he buys you dinner, you say, “Thank you for dinner.” Do you owe him a kiss? Or even a handshake? Nope. Nothing.

Last, I want to say, if you have made choices with your boundaries that you regret, it is never too late to start fresh. You can choose any day to save yourself for marriage from now on. I have close friends who lost their virginity before marriage and then decided to wait from a certain point on, and they have said they were so happy they chose to wait with the person they ended up marrying, even though that wasn’t the case originally.

Plus, there are a lot of unexpected benefits to setting boundaries from the beginning. The less of a physical element your relationship has, the less complicated it will be, and the more clear-headed you will be to discern if this is the right person for you. (Look up the science of sex—all the intense hormones it releases make our minds very clouded when making decisions.) Yes, you have the choice to save as much or as little

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