Being Genuine by Thomas d'Ansembourg

Author:Thomas d'Ansembourg [D’Ansembourg, Thomas]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 978-1-892005-21-2
Publisher: PuddleDancer Press
Published: 2007-04-07T04:00:00+00:00

If today I manage to support people at the bottom of their pit in a more satisfactory way, it’s because I have understood that what they need most is presence, to not be alone. Karim saw himself (and he said so) all alone again, that is, abandoned and rejected, which was the essential drama of his life.

If I display for him all my solutions, my good reassuring advice, I am not taking care of him but of me, of my anxiety. I am not with him, but with me, with my panic or my guilt at the idea of failing in “my duty to do good.” So then he is more and more alone, more and more convinced that no one can understand the extent of his distress. And then the only solution for such a person is suicide, the ultimate anesthesia. Whereas, if through empathy I reach him, if I accompany him in his distress with my fully compassionate presence, he has a greater chance of feeling less lonely. Doubtless he is experiencing great pain, but at the same time we are together. And we converge on the need that lies at the very heart of Karim’s drama, as well as many others’ suffering: to count for someone, to have a place among other people, to connect, to exist in someone’s heart.

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