A KeyHolder's Handbook by Green Georgia Ivey
Author:Green, Georgia Ivey [Green, Georgia Ivey]
Language: eng
Format: mobi, epub
Publisher: Georgia Ivey Green
Published: 2013-10-28T00:00:00+00:00
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Chapter 9 – Discipline & Rewards
“Oh my! You didn't say anything
about keeping the key. I lost
it several weeks ago.”
As much as we may all hate it, there are times when your partner is going to need some serious discipline, or even punishment, for something he has, or hasn't done. By the same token, there will be times when he deserves a reward and we don't want to overlook those times either. In the world of chastity, and especially tease and denial, the lines between reward and punishment often get blurred. The problem is that, quite often, what we might do to someone as a punishment might actually be perceived as a reward, and vice-versa. This makes it very important that we, as KeyHolders, make sure that everything we do in the realm of reward and punishment is perceived in the correct way.
If you don't make it clear that the spanking you are about to give your partner is meant to be a punishment, he may actually enjoy being spanked. It might actually arouse him. The fact that you have taken the initiative to show him who is boss, might be enough of a turn on to get him excited to the point that the spanking itself becomes enjoyable. By the same token, a reward, perhaps an orgasm, might be perceived as a punishment because, although he seems to want it, that is precisely why he enjoys chastity. Failure to properly limit his orgasms, can cause him to think that you just don't care anymore. For example, you might think that threatening to leave him in chastity permanently would be the ultimate threat. The truth is, that would back fire on you. The ultimate threat would be to hand him his keys and tell him you are done. No more chastity. He can do what he wants with the key. Chances are, he worked very hard to get you to lock him up and play the game in the first place. Threatening to end it all and stop playing is the worst thing you could do.
So, now that you understand the dilemma, it is up to you to learn enough about your partner and what gets him aroused, to know what will work as an effective punishment, and what will serve nicely as a reward. Throughout the following descriptions of punishments and rewards, bear in mind, while a hand spanking might be a reward, a severe paddling will not.
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