12 Rules for Life: How to Stop Making Yourself Feel Like S#it by Peter Davis

Author:Peter Davis [Davis, Peter]
Language: eng
Format: azw3
Publisher: UNKNOWN
Published: 2018-04-13T04:00:00+00:00

Do Have High Frustration Tolerance

Mental toughness. The opposite of can’t stand it-itis.

Accepting responsibility for out thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

We could whine about how bad everything, and everyone else is.

How I shouldn’t have to wait in line at the grocery store. What year is it? 21st century and I’m still waiting in a line?

I certainly prefer prompt service, but it’s not unbearable. I can make myself feel like shit, or I can accept not everything is going to be exactly how I want it, get the shopping done, and get on with my life.

People with low frustration tolerance have a really hard time getting, and keeping a partner.

They think the partner must do things a certain way or it’s unbearable.

Now there are some things that you wont want to accept in a relationship. There are reasons you want to find someone who is compatible with you.

But there are only a few big things you need to be on the same page on in a relationship to make it work. Most of the little things people don’t like are just a fact of life that no one is going to be perfectly as you’d like.

People are human. They have habits, quirks, imperfections.

Getting along with people in general requires high frustration tolerance.

Getting something done? It’s probably not going to be fun, but putting it off for weeks is even less fun. Now instead of the original thing you wanted to get done, now you have stress, anxiety, and worry about it for weeks or months, or…

Low frustration tolerance comes from beliefs about life, others, and you.

There are only certain things you really can’t stand, like lack of oxygen for example. You won’t be able to stand that for too long.

Besides that and a few other things. 99.99% of things in your life you are able to stand. It’s only a belief, an interpretation of situations that you can’t that is getting you into trouble.

It doesn’t mean you have to like them or want them in your life. A preference for or against something will lead to healthy responses and emotions, it’s distorted thinking that will give you a harder time.

Things might be uncomfortable, difficult, annoying, etc. But they’re not unbearable. You’re more resilient than you can imagine.

Most situations you tell yourself you can’t stand, you’ve probably stood them many times in your life, just made them harder by telling yourself you can’t stand them and they must not be this way.

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