When the Ship Has No Stabilizers: our daughter's tempestuous voyage through borderline personality disorder by Fran Porter

Author:Fran Porter [Porter, Fran]
Language: eng
Format: azw3
Publisher: Crossfield Publishing
Published: 2014-03-16T16:00:00+00:00

25. Colleen Will Not Spoil the Wedding

Lisa planned on getting out of the Radcliff place as quickly as pos­sible. Living with Colleen was simply too stressful. As any teacher will agree, she needed all her faculties to cope daily with the challenges of the job; Colleen’s wild lifestyle, along with those unpredictable moods, was turning her into a sleep-deprived wreck. “So what else is new?” she wearily kidded. “I’ve always been sleep-deprived because of Colleen.”

We were fully aware it couldn’t continue—despite the comfort it gave us that she was there. It wasn’t her duty to supervise her sister. So we weren’t surprised when she hooked up with the realtor aunt of her university friend Cat (the one who’d painted the flowers on Colleen’s basement-apartment walls) and began looking into the ins and outs of assuming a mortgage. Once again to her credit, she went about this almost independently, only getting advice from her dad every now and then. Her research culminated in the purchase of a charming little townhouse in the Glamorgan area. Next thing we knew, dear Shawn reappeared on the scene!

After the breakup Lisa still saw Shawn occasionally but “only as a friend”. Their social circles overlapped so they bumped into one another from time to time. Shawn had had some success at last in finding a job with a computer games company that agreeably tested his considerable skills as a graphic artist. I think he always loved Lisa but perhaps his sense of honour necessitated he feel secure about his future before he thought about making the bond between them more permanent. Neither do I discount the high probability that the prospect of having Colleen as a sister-in-law gave him the willies. Heaven knows it would have given anyone the willies! Shawn has since expressed to me his opinion of Colleen as “a toxic personality”, one who always ruined family get-togethers with her temper, tears, or histrionic outbursts. He’s right. And he seemed to relax much more with me, as a mother-in-law, when I acknowledged he was right.

But not to get ahead of myself, Shawn’s reappearance on the scene when Lisa purchased the Glamorgan townhouse was initially as her tenant. He made her a deal to rent one of the bedrooms which would certainly defray some of her mortgage burden. Not unexpectedly, they didn’t re­main landlord and tenant for long. In Lisa’s words, they soon “evolved into being a couple again”. This time though, they decided to make it official. To our boundless elation, they announced their engagement.

They wanted a relatively small wedding: those invited included only us, Shawn’s parents and siblings and assorted relatives, a few of their mutual close friends, and our close friends, the Dawson family. Lisa asked Grant if he’d consider being the one to perform the ceremony; after all, she’d known Grant and Dorothy and their two sons forever. And would he also consider performing it at Red Deer Lake United, rather than at Knox? Both Lisa and Shawn felt the little

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