The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence by Scott Allender

Author:Scott Allender
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Self-Help;Enneagram;Emotional intelligence;Mindfulness (Psychology) | Transformative learning;REL012090;SEL031000;PSY023000
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Published: 2023-03-02T00:00:00+00:00

Enneagram Types and Decision-Making

Type One

In low awareness, Ones overrely on gut instinct (doing) to make their decisions, supported by feeling, and they repress thinking. This concept is often surprising to the One, and those who know them, because Ones seem to be thinking constantly (in fact, Ones can often look like Sixes, a Head type). However, Ones have a proclivity toward categorization more than most of the other types—things are either good or bad, black or white, left or right. Whereas everyone’s brains are hardwired to save calories by quickly putting things into categories, Ones aren’t as likely to step back and reevaluate their rapid-fire evaluations.

In their gut, Ones believe they simply know what’s what. They prefer to make decisions within the confines of the rules, and therefore nuanced thinking isn’t easily deployed. The thinking that does consume them, however, is often unproductive in that it is directed at a perpetual cycle of self-evaluation and the evaluation of others as to whether they are measuring up to the internal standards that the One has set. In this lower state of awareness, the thinking never stops. Ones direct their energy toward thinking about how nothing quite measures up, including themselves, and also toward rationalizing decisions they’ve already made and actions they’ve already taken. This thinking is what drives the emotional vice of anger for Ones—an internal standing against reality compelled by a desire to change it. From this vantage point, the One is likely to be convinced of the right decision yet never really satisfied with the results that follow. And round and round they go.

In high awareness, Ones direct their thinking toward possibilities and creative solutions to problems. They don’t actively seek to break the rules but are generally less concerned with them. They adopt an open posture and engage in active listening with those around them, no longer confident that they positively know the right way to do something. Perhaps the biggest shift that happens when Ones are highly aware is that they become willing to make decisions that may lead to failure. Freed from their former rigidity about needing every choice to be perfect, they become willing to take risks and learn from mistakes. They can refrain from berating themselves or others for anything that doesn’t work out as hoped. Highly aware Ones understand that there is rarely a textbook choice to be made—the world is forever uncertain, and perfection doesn’t really exist. When Ones understand and integrate this at a core level, they find serenity in their messy, unpredictable world and in the process become the type of decision-makers who get far better results than when they thought they knew every right choice.

Type Two

In low awareness, Twos overrely on feeling to make their decisions, and they repress thinking. Similar to Ones, this concept is often surprising to Twos as they report thinking constantly. But what they are primarily thinking about is other people. In a low state of awareness, type Two is ruminating about every facet of

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