Rejection Reset: Restore Social Confidence, Reshape Your Inferior Mindset, and Thrive In a Shame-Free Lifestyle (2nd Edition) by Scott Allan

Author:Scott Allan [Allan, Scott]
Language: eng
Format: azw3, epub
Published: 2017-09-10T04:00:00+00:00

Action Steps

Revisit your shame-based childhood. The origin of shame stems from your family life. Someone criticized you or demeaned you. The love you wanted was conditional and not real. See yourself as an adult now revisiting this child. What would you say or do to comfort them?

Visualize this and comfort this child. Do this at least once a day for the next two weeks. After that, take a look at how you are feeling. Connect with your feelings by asking yourself: “How do I feel about this situation now?”

If you are still feeling deep bouts of shame, you may want to consider talking to someone. Sometimes, we have to go to a deeper level to get connected. You can do this more effectively by engaging with someone else who is listening objectively.

List your good qualities. By making this list, you can compare it to the list of defects. Put your defects and qualities side by side and ask yourself “Are these defects real?” If you write down the exaggeration, “Nobody likes me,” cross it out and write the truth: “There are many who like me, and some don’t.”

Everyone has defective character traits, but they also have positive traits. Now, next to each defect, write a positive trait. Be as honest with yourself as you can. Spend at least twenty minutes on this.

Join a support group of positive-minded people. Getting involved with people you can share with is a great way to heal the pain of the past. Connect with people through a mastermind group online or in your local community.

You will find nowadays that connecting online with a group of people who share similar interests and goals boosts confidence and makes you feel a part of something. Get connected with others.

Years ago, when I started doing this, it changed my life. I was no longer “alone” but had found people with whom I could share my thoughts, feelings, and fears. Start to make a list of groups you could join. And this could be anything that is related to your hobbies, interests, or, if you want to go deeper, a group or person who specializes in therapy discussion.

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