No More Bullies by Frank Peretti

Author:Frank Peretti
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: ebook, book
Publisher: Thomas Nelson Inc.
Published: 0101-01-01T00:00:00+00:00

HELP FOR THE

WOUNDED

Chapter Seven

Up to this point in the book I’ve spoken from my own experience, bringing to light a problem many of us share but have seldom talked about. I’ve suggested that it’s a significant problem that should be talked about and dealt with. I’ve presented one concise argument—there are plenty of others—that we do have a moral foundation from which we can address the problem.1

Just to let you know, this and the following chapters are going to have a common thread you’ll see cropping up continually: the whole matter of attitude. If we’re going to deal with this problem, it’s going to require a change in attitude, not just on the part of the bullies, but also the victims, the schools, society, the powers-that-be, you name it. We’ve had the wrong attitude about this for too long, and it’s time to change it.

Although I’ll often be addressing the plight of the young, these chapters aren’t just for kids. A wounded spirit has no regard for time or age. Wounded kids grow up to be wounded adults, and wounded adults were most likely wounded kids. Nobody likes being picked on now, nobody liked being picked on as a child, and I’ve found in my experience and research that everybody remembers the hurt and pain associated with being bullied and abused.

When it comes to wounded spirits, three categories of people can relate: those who are wounded, those who wound or have wounded others, and those who fall into both categories—they’ve been wounded themselves, and they also wound others. This chapter is addressed primarily to the wounded.

When I told a friend of mine that I was writing a book about teasing and peer abuse, he quipped, “Oh, so you’re writing a book about life!” He had a point there. Quite simply, garbage does happen, and we’ve all been touched by it in some form at one time or another.

But the questions now are, How do I get over the pain?How do I deal with the wounds inside me? What can I do about the hurtful situation I’m in right now?

Well, let me share some helpful observations and pearls of wisdom with you.

First of all, if you’re wounded, you’re not alone.

Hang on. Before you shrug this little truism off as just another trite phrase or cutesy emotional Band-Aid, please consider how normal it makes you.

People come in all shapes and sizes, with all kinds of different abilities and disabilities—some are slim, some are fat; others are handsome, ugly, inferior, strong, weak, dorky, or nerdy—but God made us all, so that makes every one of us special, despite our shortcomings. All of us have something, or lack something, that potentially can make us a target for abuse.

But that doesn’t mean there’s something “wrong” with you. Everybody has something they wish they could change about themselves. If you have discovered some “defect” in yourself, welcome to the human race. Regardless of your failures, foibles, or defeats, you’re just as human (and just as precious) as anybody else.

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