Loving People by John Townsend

Author:John Townsend
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: ebook, book
Publisher: Thomas Nelson

MOVE FROM THE EVERYDAY TO THE EMOTIONAL

The ability to connect requires you to move deeper with another person. Most connections begin with the everyday and move to the emotions. That is just how process tends to happen, unless it is a more focused setting, such as counseling or a relationally based small group. These heart issues may concern those everyday events, and they may not. But the important thing is to be able to gradually help the person experience his or her feelings and for you to be there with those feelings.

Most of the time, this emotional connection can be accomplished by your own response to what the person is saying or talking about. That is, you connect by providing deeper or more emotional responses to what is being said. That, in turn, helps the other person become safer, more vulnerable, and more heart-based. The process is a little like what happens when you have a computer problem and are on the phone with a skilled technical support person. He instructs you to go into certain files and programs in order to help find the source of the problem. Down you go, into, for example, the registry, where if you are not careful, a wrong move can damage your computer. But the tech helps you open files and folders each step of the way. In the same way, you, as the connector, provide levels of empathy and understanding that help the person experience himself at more real levels.

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