Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage: Unlocking the Secrets to Life, Love and Marriage by Mark Gungor

Author:Mark Gungor
Language: eng
Format: mobi
Tags: Christian
ISBN: 9781416565758
Published: 2008-03-25T00:00:00+00:00

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Sex, Lies, and the Internet

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What’s Sex Got to Do with It?

LET him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—

for your love is more delightful than wine.

—Song of Solomon 1:2

FIRST of all, I’d like to welcome all the men who have decided to read this book. If you are like most guys, this is the first chapter you turned to.

Before we begin, I must mention that there are two groups of people who take issue with my approach to this subject. The first are those representing academia. I get in trouble with this group because I come across as more sophomoric than academic when I talk about sex. I prefer not to talk about sex as though it were something done in a lab or a sterile operating room. I don’t use terms like “male genitalia” or “breasts”; I much prefer the nomenclature wieners and boobs. I don’t refer to how some men are particularly fond of a woman’s posterior; I will say some men start the launch sequence the moment they see their wife’s butt. It’s not that I am trying to be tawdry or crude (though I have frequently been accused of being so), it’s that I think God created sex to be fun, so talking about this enterprise in a way that makes people giggle seems completely appropriate to me. Besides, I am not an academic and have never claimed to be.

The other group I seem to offend is the radically prudish religious crowd. I have greatly looked forward to writing on this subject, particularly as a pastor. Most ministers are scared to death to talk about sex. I had one pastor’s wife who was getting ready to interview me for a radio broadcast ask, “You’re not going to use the ‘s’ word, are you?” At first I wasn’t sure what she was talking about. In fact, the first ‘s’ word that popped into my mind had four letters, not three. Then it dawned on me she meant the word sex.

Holy cow! There are some so uptight about this subject that they refuse to even say the word “sex”! Most pastors prefer to use the word “intimacy.” I’ve often wondered if it’s not this Pollyanna approach that is most responsible for such statistics as 50 percent of Christian men are involved in pornography; Christian teenagers having sex and getting pregnant with as much frequency as those outside the Church; adultery between Church members becoming an everyday occurrence; or sexually transmitted diseases pouring into Christian families. Maybe this is happening with greater frequency because we can’t say “sex”!

There is such a fear of this subject in some religious circles that you don’t even have to say it to be censored. I had one Christian radio station in Tulsa, Oklahoma, cancel one of my radio spots because I spelled the word sex! That’s right—I did not say it, I said s-e-x. They told us they felt the spot was “too controversial.” (Apparently, people don’t have sex in Oklahoma. That’s

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