I Am That Girl: How to Speak Your Truth, Discover Your Purpose, and #bethatgirl by Alexis Jones

Author:Alexis Jones [Jones, Alexis]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: I am that Girl: How to speak your truth, discover your purpose, and #bethatgirl
ISBN: 9780988224575
Publisher: Evolve Publishing, Inc.
Published: 2014-11-24T23:00:00+00:00

REMI NICOLE (Singer, Songwriter, Actress): As a teenager, I was always very strong minded and confident and had a lot of good friends, but once I was in my twenties, my career as a musician started to take off and a whole new group of people were introduced into my life. For a while it was infectiously fun and I really did have a great time. However, along with those new people came a lot of issues that I had to deal with, ones I hadn’t dealt with before. The main one was being around people with an astronomical level of insecurities. These people were the types many others look up to, and their outward bravado would explain why, but deep down they were riddled with insecurities that really affected their actions. They became bitter, jealous, unhealthily competitive, and generally unkind when their insecurities hit high levels. They made unwise choices that often made things worse. I found myself, through associating with them, entangled in webs of deceit, lies, drama blown out of proportion, and general disarray.

I started to feel uncomfortable, as their behavior brought out my own insecurities, and suddenly I started to question myself more than ever, which made me try to mould myself differently. As ridiculous as it sounds, there was even a part of me that enjoyed the darker moments. There seemed to be a romance in the melancholy. It seemed to be “cool” to be unhappy and as a musician I thought it helped. However, that was such an uncomfortable feeling that I knew it couldn’t be right. It took me until all of this passed, much later into my twenties, to realize that being yourself is all you can do in life. There is no other option. Every other option makes you feel uncomfortable in your own skin, confused, and empty, and that is no way to live. I realized if I couldn’t be myself around certain people, or if I felt the need to try and be someone different, or indulge in negativity to be “cool,” these were not the people I needed to surround myself with. They were not bad people, mostly, but they were not good for me and I was fortunate enough to realize that in good time.

Sometimes you have to make those choices and cut out the things in your life that don’t have a positive impact on you. I learned that when I was around people who were open, honest, and secure with themselves it really brought out the best in me and helped me to grow at lot more, secure in the knowledge that I was being myself at all times, which really was all I could be.

I have been lucky all my life with the friends I have acquired, the good and the bad as you can learn from everyone, but I strongly believe that to have good people around you and to keep them around you is one of the most important factors that will shape your life for the better.

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