Gentlewoman by Enitan O. Bereola II

Author:Enitan O. Bereola II
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: BookBaby
Published: 2014-11-04T19:13:10+00:00

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-The Hair: A woman’s hair is often considered a sense of pride. For some, it’s a symbolic connection to femininity more sacred than we realize. I used to hate weaves. I felt the nation’s economy could be fixed if we got rid of them. When running my fingers through a Ladies’ weave, I felt trapped. I thought tracks only belonged on railroads or records. I was so analytical about weaves that I believed them to be a temporary cover up to a bigger life issue. I was so anti-weave that I would search for tracks like a producer – and if I located one, the party was over!

“I remember when I used to talk trash about women who wore weaves, feeling superior to them. Then I got one...& I shut the hell up.” –Gabrielle Union

I think the problem most men have with weave is that it looks like weave. If you can’t afford to keep it up, take it out. The men I polled suggested that if they couldn’t tell, oh, what the hell. Some men don’t seem to care as long as it looks like her hair. They don’t like for it to be too much and hate it if it’s unable to be touched. Many men claim they prefer a Lady natural, but constantly pass up the woman with a natural. Some men even said that weave implies a woman is lazy. My response is simple: Some of your own mothers who raised badass children like you while holding down two or more jobs wore convenient weaves. Are you calling them lazy? Besides, wearing a ball cap is just as lazy. Some men even said, “God didn’t make women with weave–it’s unnatural.” He didn’t, but He did create women with personalities and a desire to be expressive. And he didn’t create you to rule over women.

However, some men support a Lady doing whatever she wants to do to feel beautiful. One person surveyed said, “Weave is fine. Any enhancement works as long as she’s not self-conscious of her natural beauty and doesn’t overdo it.” My response is that if she wants to “over-do” it, she can. Why? Well, because it’s her hair. However, one person polled made a great observation by suggesting that most weavy women he’s come in contact with are very standoffish about their hair. When it’s time to get intimate, her hair is off limits. Some women like their hair pulled…as long as it can’t be pulled off. The most sensible response was, “Personally, I don’t care. I have more things to worry about, like can she hold an interesting conversation.” What’s in her head is always more important than what’s on it.

In my experience with women, I’ve come to learn that weaves, extensions, wigs and what women chose to do with their hair has nothing to do with me and my opinion. No woman other than my mother has ever had input on my hair, so why should men have input in what a woman decides to do with her hair?

Weaves don’t conclude anything.

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