Forgive Your Damn Self by Georgia Murch

Author:Georgia Murch
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Sourcebooks
Published: 2022-06-29T00:00:00+00:00

Part II

Your Transformation

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Now for Your Transformation

Transformation is a word that tends to be thrown around flippantly. Organizations claim to be going through transformational programs; people go on retreats to transform into new people; teams go on offsites to transform into high performers. But how often are these attempts at transformation actually successful?

Transformation is not a destination; it’s an evolution into infinity. It also takes time. If transformation could happen in a single weekend, we’d all subscribe to those retreats. We’d fork out thousands of dollars knowing we would emerge as a new person, team, or business. (In fact, many of us do fork out money like that, yet we don’t get the results we expect.)

Transformation is a profound journey that evolves over time. Sometimes it appears as a big aha moment or event, but it mostly takes shape in the small moments. The irony of it is that it’s about surrendering to what is happening and trying to understand it rather than control it.

We can’t manufacture our own evolution; it happens in its own time, and it is not as illustrious or unobtainable as you may think. If you put in the work to take responsibility for your triggers, understand the real truth behind them, and make them mean something that serves you, you will transform. It is that simple and that profound.

Be Like a Butterfly

The year 2019 was significant for me. At the beginning of the year, I felt like I was permanently walking through mud, and it didn’t smell or taste pleasant. My gorgeous kids, Jacko and Holly, went from behaving like relatively normal teenagers (grunting, talking back, self-focused) to being next-level teenagers (getting stuck into things they shouldn’t, riddled with anxiety, skipping school). They are both very different humans, and I don’t want to share the details (that’s their story to tell if they choose), but needless to say, it was tough—particularly given they split their time between me and their dad.

At the same time, I was offered the project of a lifetime. I redesigned my business around it to make sure I could take it on, but then the opportunity was withdrawn. On top of that, I received a fair bit of feedback about my style from people I respect, and I was coming to terms with the fact that I had even more work to do on myself. This hurt, because it forced me to reconcile the fact that the person I want to be is not always the one that comes across. Fark!

I experienced health challenges; hormonal changes gave me night sweats, ridiculous emotional roller coasters, and foggy brain. My dad’s health was quickly declining. And to top it off, many of my close friends had moved away. It felt like life was coming at me from all angles.

One night in particular, I became quite overwhelmed. I went for a walk around my local streets. I cried it out. Crying is good: it releases hormones that can reduce your anxiety, and it slows your heart rate and your breathing.

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