Building Stronger Marriages and Families by Billy Joe Daugherty

Author:Billy Joe Daugherty
Language: eng
Format: mobi, epub
Tags: Christian Life, Family & Relationships, Religious Aspects, Christianity, Religion, Marriage, Family Relationships, General, Love & Marriage
ISBN: 9780892748587
Publisher: Harrison House
Published: 1991-05-13T22:00:00+00:00

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Seven Keys To Improving Your Communication Skills

1. Make a decision to improve communication. Just as loving your mate is a decision, not an emotion or a feeling, so you must make a decision that you want to improve your communication skills.

2. Establish a quality time to share and communicate with your mate and family. Indicate a time on your calendar for your mate and your children if you're extremely busy. It's more important than all the ball games, sporting events, recreational activities, and all the other things that you'll do.

God dealt with me that I needed to make appointments to meet with Sharon. As husband and wife, you need to make plans concerning your children—their education, vacations — and the time that you will be alone with each other and them in a family setting. When Sharon and I began to pull away together, we were able to eliminate a lot of frustrating situations by planning those things that were important.

We began to share common goals and dreams: What are the goals we have for our family? Where will we be at the end of this year in our lives spiritually? Where do we want to be five years from now?

It's important that your sharing time not be a distressing time. In other words, if you both work downtown and you have just come through the five o'clock rush hour and haven't eaten yet, that's no time to communicate on something you have different opinions about.

What's the principle that businessmen use when they're going to make a deal or talk with someone about a problem? They take them out to lunch or dinner, and after they've eaten and are full and happy, they talk about the situation.

I believe a lot of arguments are started when people are in stress situations. They try to resolve a problem in a few minutes when they only have a short time, or when they're not feeling right. It would be much better just to put it off until there's time to discuss it in a relaxing atmosphere.

TV is probably the greatest enemy of communication. When I was growing up, we used to bow down and worship the god of TV, offering the evening sacrifice of ten eyes for about three hours. After we had worshipped, then the god of television would impart to us his spirit, and we would go to sleep with that spirit. Then the next day, we would go out and walk in the light of that which we had received! How many people follow this pattern today?

3. Take an interest in what the other person is doing. The best communicators are the ones who show an interest in the other person. The opposite of this is selfishness. It's not hard to listen to someone if you take an active interest in what they're doing.

Jesus came to our level to lift us to His level. This same principle applies in communication. When you come to the level where people are to

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