The Healing Power of Positive Words by Mary C. Busha

Author:Mary C. Busha
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Self-Help;REL012070;REL012100;SEL031000
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Published: 2022-01-03T00:00:00+00:00

How Words Affect What We See in the Mirror

How do words spoken to us early in our lives, or maybe just yesterday, have anything to do with what we see in the mirror? Too often, what we see in our reflection is based on another’s words, those of a parent or other family member, a teacher, a coach, someone in the clergy, a friend, a spouse—you name it. Even in the case of Dr. Holleman, had not the most gorgeous boy in the world pointed out the blemishes on her nose (something natural for an adolescent to have), perhaps her nose might never have become an issue for her, a burden she carried that affected her life for years.

What are some of the words you’ve heard? When you look in the mirror, do those words, whether positive or negative, ever poke through from the recesses of your mind? And do you repeat them to yourself?

For example, in the area of our physical selves, has anyone ever told you that you are too tall, too short, too skinny, too fat, maybe homely?

How about intellect? Were the words “You’re stupid” ever spoken to you?

Regarding capability, has anyone ever said, “You can’t do anything right”?

How about your family background? Did you ever hear words such as “You’re a loser, just like your Uncle Joe”?

And now when you look in the mirror, do you repeat those words to yourself, aloud or silently? That’s negative self-talk. And here’s the unsuspected danger in all that. Are you ready for this? What you perceive and speak about yourself, you tend to become. That’s right. Your own words can help create and perpetuate something about yourself you don’t like. Some call it a self-fulfilling prophecy, which is defined as a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true. Why? Because what you believe affects your behavior.

Think about it. If I believe I’m not attractive or intelligent or capable, I will probably act accordingly. I might stand back like a wallflower, never trying anything new or presenting my opinion. If I feel that my position in life or my family heritage is less than that of others, I will most likely act as though I am of little value and have nothing to offer. We’ve all heard the admonition in the diet industry: we are what we eat. In this case, we are what our words say we are.

In direct sales, we’re taught that what we think about, we talk about; and what we talk about, we bring about. I believe this is true in every area of our lives. If I think I’m ugly, I speak accordingly to myself and possibly to others. And the more I talk about being ugly, the more I begin to act the words out, thereby sealing my own fate of what I don’t want to be. Can you see how this works? Is there evidence that you’re defining who you are with your words?

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