Enjoy! by Joyce J. Penner & Clifford L. Penner

Author:Joyce J. Penner & Clifford L. Penner [Penner, Joyce J.]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: RELIGION / Christian Life / Love & Marriage, RELIGION / Christian Life / Women's Issues
Publisher: Focus on the Family
Published: 2017-08-02T04:00:00+00:00

If this is true for you, you can recondition your sexual response through the sexual retraining process we’ve detailed in our book Restoring the Pleasure,[34] or through sexual therapy.

Young men today report that pornography use has made it difficult for them to be intimate. They may continue their habit of self-stimulation in response to pornography, and struggle with erectile dysfunction when with the woman they love intimately. Their arousal is programmed to nonintimate stimuli.

“The majority of the men we see in treatment are between the ages of 35 and 55, although those numbers have skewed younger recently, mainly because of pornography,” says Robert Weiss, who founded a sexual addiction treatment center.

“I’m getting 25-year-old guys who’ve been looking at hardcore porn on the Internet since they were 15 and now say they have trouble with relationships. The reason for this is [that] their expectation of sexuality and orgasm is based off unrealistic imagery that produces an unnatural intensity. It’s like drugs. Nobody enjoys the little things, like smelling flowers, if they’re doing a lot of cocaine because why bother? Smelling a flower releases a small bit of dopamine—the brain chemical that makes us feel good—whereas cocaine releases a veritable tsunami of dopamine. So who needs flowers when you’ve got cocaine? And who needs a relationship when you’ve got hardcore porn?”[35]

If this is true of your husband as it was for Keith, he will need to seek help from a sexual addiction specialist[36] to stop the porn, and then the two of you will need to engage in sexual retraining or sex therapy to learn to be intimately sexual in your marriage.

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