Becoming Your Spouse's Better Half by Johnson Rick A

Author:Johnson, Rick A [Johnson, Rick A]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9780800732509
Google: l0c20Ji-X24C
Amazon: 0800732502
Goodreads: 6936700
Publisher: Revell
Published: 2010-01-01T05:00:00+00:00

Mentors

The most effective way people grow and change is through being mentored. Being mentored by positive role models is also the best way that people, especially males, learn. Males are extremely visual, so the need to actually see an example is imperative in their learning and development process.

All males need older males to guide them through life. It is the natural order of things. Even as adults we need other men to help show us the way. We need men in our lives who have been where we’re going, who have stumbled where we stumble, who understand the pressures and stresses of being a husband and father and know how to deal with those struggles effectively.

In fact, at every stage of life, all of us need mentors. Boys need older boys. Young fathers need older, experienced fathers to help with questions and problems. Even older males whose children are grown and gone look up to others. I need an older man to show me how to approach the next stage of my life now that my kids are gone.

Oftentimes we don’t even realize we’re looking for guidance. If we have good role models to follow, then we naturally tend to make good choices in life. With poor role models, however, we tend to make unhealthy or even destructive choices. The advice we get and examples set for us are those we tend to emulate. We learn skills, character traits, and problem-solving abilities from those who guide us.

Because I was not raised by my biological father, one of the joys I experience today is having him available to teach me how to do home repairs and build things. My stepfather didn’t teach me those things, and that has been a source of frustration throughout my life. Whenever I needed to repair something, I usually had to try it several times until I taught myself how to do it, not to mention running to the store half a dozen times for the right parts and tools. Having a dad who patiently teaches me how to use my hands to fix or create things is a source of great satisfaction and even comfort to me. Because I have someone to show me how to do things, I am less frustrated and it reduces my anger and anxiety levels.

Boys who do not get proper training from men in their lives never learn how to use the gifts or the power of their masculinity. When that happens, generational cycles such as abuse, addictions, and abandonment get passed from one generation to the next. These young men are preprogrammed to exhibit certain tendencies or make specific choices in life merely by what was modeled for them when they were growing up. They are often not even conscious that they are following in the footsteps laid for them.

Generally, despite our best intentions, our children mimic the worst of the characteristics we model for them instead of the best. They always imitate what we do, not what we say.

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