10 Questions Kids Ask About Sex by Bill Farrel

Author:Bill Farrel
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9780736949200
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers, Inc.

It Takes a Team

Procreation takes both a man and a woman, but sometimes the truth of this in the first talk doesn’t really click with a preschooler. This may be especially true if you paint the picture of conception with a broad brush, saying something like, “Mommy and Daddy loved each other in a special way, like God created married couples to do.” Even if you are a little more specific, you likely cared more about the precise words and details than your preschooler did. To him or her it might have seemed like a sweet day, a wonderful picture book, but probably not as mammoth in his or her mind and memory as it was yours! Be flexible and allow the conversation to flow. The conversation should be like a tennis match, batting the ball back and forth over the net as you share and ask questions.

With this talk, containing all the details of just how the plumbing fits together and why, the pieces of the puzzle often fall together for a child. The “aha!” moment often hits and the lightbulb of understanding goes on. Here’s how one of Linda and Richard Eyres’ daughters describes the experience of this big talk and her realization of the father’s importance in the process:

When I was seven years old, I began to wonder why fathers seemed to be an integral part of so many families. I had several younger brothers and sisters, so I’d seen my mother’s protruding belly with each new child and I had felt the unborn baby kick around in there when I placed my hand on my mother’s tummy. I had a basic understanding of the fact that babies come out of their mothers. But I didn’t get how fathers fit into the picture. I loved my dad—he was a whole lot of fun, but was he necessary? What made me distinctly his daughter rather than someone else’s daughter? How was I really connected to him?…My eighth birthday finally rolled around…They not only told me about the basic “plumbing” of sex, they told me that it was a wonderful, special thing that two people who loved each other could share. I don’t remember the exact words they used, but I remember the basic feeling of the message, and it was good and warm.5

Once she heard the details of the “oasis” time at age eight, Dad’s role suddenly became vital, so Dad himself became more important in her eyes. These are the kind of fundamental elements you are seeking to sow in your child’s heart at this early stage. Those seeds will reap positive dividends later on in his or her life. Making time for these talks will be worth it later on, Mom and Dad.

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