Winning Plays: Tackling Adversity and Achieving Success in Business and in Life by Matt Mayberry

Author:Matt Mayberry [Mayberry, Matt]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Business & Economics / Personal Success, Self-Help / Personal Growth / General
Publisher: Center Street
Published: 2016-09-06T07:00:00+00:00

THINGS YOU CAN TACKLE NOW TO RECOVER FROM A CRUSHED DREAM

1. Face the facts. If something has crushed your dream, do you find that you are in denial? I wasn’t really in denial—I didn’t think there was life after the NFL, so I hadn’t even reached the point of denial yet—but I was in a death spiral. I believed if I couldn’t play football, then life as I knew it was over. If you’re in denial about a crushed dream, or if you’re succumbing to the “death” feeling where demons roam and you believe that nothing matters in life anymore, you need to face the facts. We all have to look at those facts objectively and analyze our next move, no matter how painful it is.

2. Don’t overanalyze. We might overanalyze when something happens to crush our dream. We might worry ourselves to death, wondering what we’re going to do. We might tell ourselves it’s a nightmare and that tomorrow we’ll wake up and things will be okay. Don’t overthink things. Give yourself time to absorb the reality of the situation, and don’t rush into “fixing” things.

3. Surrender. Simply surrender this to a higher power. You can’t change what has happened, but you can change how you react to it. The Beatles song “Tomorrow Never Knows” suggests that we meditate to try to find meaning within ourselves. This is perfect advice; since we can’t change the situation, we may as well turn off our minds and surrender to it. It is then that the solutions will surface. Just like long walks and meditation can give you peace of mind and answers to questions that bother you, so can the surrender of pain. Of course, this is easier said than done, and I certainly didn’t do this at the time.

4. Acceptance. Surrendering to the situation is similar to acceptance. And mind you, I did not accept my situation well at all. I kept asking myself, What if I had tackled differently on that play? What if I had chosen a different team’s offer? I realize now more than ever that acceptance is crucial to forgiving yourself and moving on. Leave all the what-ifs behind. I had to get rid of them and accept my circumstances before I could go forward.

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