Why Do I Have to Think Like a Man? by Shanae Hall Rhonda Frost

Author:Shanae Hall, Rhonda Frost
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: ebook, book
ISBN: 9780982702741
Publisher: Dr. Farrah Gray Publishing, Inc.
Published: 2010-10-08T16:00:00+00:00

Chapter 7

Why Did I Get Married?

Shanae

Every engaged, married, and divorced woman must honestly ask herself, “Why do I want to marry this person?” or “Why did I get married?”

Before I answered this question, I needed to talk to some guys and hear their answers. I didn’t understand why so many married men I knew cheated, so I decided to interview them and hear their story. One day, a friend of mine and I were talking, and I asked him why he got married. He said, “She was the best pick for the long haul. She’s a great mother, she’s sexy, she doesn’t curse, eat meat, drink alcohol, or go clubbing. She’s a perfect wife.” I said, “But you cheat, drink, and smoke. How does that work?” “I know,” he said. “She doesn’t enjoy the same things that I do, so I find women who I am more compatible with to do the things she doesn’t do.” WTF?

I have another married male friend who swears he is single. I asked him how he managed to have several serious relationships, over the past ten years, while still married. He said, “Well, I just realized I was unhappy.” So I asked him, “Why did you marry your wife?” He said he married her because they had the same financial vision, and she was very smart. WTF? The last time I checked, that was not a reason to get married.

Another male friend of mine, named Ray, dated one of my girlfriends. Ray was also married. When I asked Ray why he cheated on his wife, he said, “Because my wife, on her best day, is a seven (on a scale of one to ten). On a regular day, she’s a five or six, and I simply enjoy being with beautiful women.” He also said, “I don’t have any plans to leave her. She’s a great wife, but I don’t have any plans to be faithful either.” That’s some cold stuff right there. Go ahead and say it—WTF?

I can honestly say that I got married for love, maybe at the wrong time, but unequivocally for love. My husband-to-be and I met when I was fourteen. I knew we were going to get married someday. He was everything I wished for in my dreams: extremely gorgeous, nice teeth and a great smile, beautiful, milk chocolate skin, tall, and athletic. We started dating, and I loved everything about him—his broken fingers, his scars, his breath (good or bad). I loved it all. We dated for about a year and then broke up my sophomore year of high school. Cory was a senior.

Shortly after our breakup, he got into a fight at school and had to finish his last year at a different high school. We were apart for a year or so, and during that short period of time Cory got another girl pregnant. It hurt like hell. All of my thoughts were now about Cory, the other girl, and now a baby. When I asked about the baby, Cory lied and said it wasn’t his baby.

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