The Power of the Possible by Auriela McCarthy

Author:Auriela McCarthy
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Midpoint Trade Books
Published: 2008-01-15T00:00:00+00:00

Think about it. Isn’t it fascinating? Why is feeling pain so terribly frightening to people that they will go to any length to avoid it?

Let me give you another example of this.

A young man who was sick with cancer was working with a psychotherapist. Sometimes he would come to the therapy sessions with his mother, often too weak after his chemotherapy treatment. Knowing that at the root of every physical illness lies emotional cause, the therapist was trying to help the young man get in touch with his feelings. In the process of their work together, the therapist discovered that the young man’s father had died years before and that the son had never grieved his death.

“Next time, when you come, why don’t I help you get though your feelings, so you can grieve your Dad’s death,” the doctor suggested. The young man’s body stiffened. He looked at his feet, folded his arms across his chest. He reached for the glass of water. The therapist waited.

“No,” the man broke the silence. “No. I’d rather keep doing chemotherapy. I only vomit for four hours after the chemo. I can deal with that.”

And yet, frightening or not, feelings are simply that—feelings. They fluctuate and they change—high-tide, low-tide, storms, fires, droughts. Small children before they’ve learned to adapt and to imitate adults are a good example. Crying one moment, laughing happily the next. Feelings come and go. Teach yourself how not to stuff them. Feel them, and release them, so you can be free. Because as long as they are in the way, you will be run by them. And eventually—destroyed by them.

Unexpressed, unattended constricting feelings are the time bombs ready to explode. The clock is set, but the time is unknown.

* * *

AT THE ROOT of cancer lies anger. Old, petrified, unexpressed, and now deadly. It is the anger that we are sure is too late to do anything about.

There is nothing I can do about it, it happened too long ago, it is too late now is the message we give our subconscious again and again. Sometimes the anger may indeed be so old, we don’t even remember it. We have succeeded in tucking it away, hiding it even from ourselves.

But it is there. As alive and potent as when it was first born, and it is doing its deadly job. The subconscious gets the message: it is too late. The subconscious does not judge or evaluate. It simply follows the given program. The body follows as well: it is too late. And a person gets a deadly illness. Designed to get him out of here because it is too late for here.

It is not too late! And this bomb slowly ticking away inside often can be stopped. So many have done it successfully. None of them without getting to the bottom of their feelings and freeing themselves from their constricting grip. Having a life threatening illness was their motivation. It doesn’t have to go that far.

Self pity, being sorry for yourself, is not a feeling, but a mood, a condition.

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