The HeART of Laser-Focused Coaching: A Revolutionary Approach to Masterful Coaching by Marion Franklin

Author:Marion Franklin [Franklin, Marion]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Thomas Noble Books
Published: 2019-09-30T20:00:00+00:00

What are you sacrificing to keep the relationship going?

What is it that has you solving other people’s problems instead of your own?

What has you taking responsibility for other people?

What stops you from saying no when you’re asked to do something you don’t want to do?

Lone Wolf

Refusing to ask for help when you need it is refusing someone the chance to be helpful.

— Ric Ocasek

People often think that asking for help is a sign of weakness, whereas it’s actually a sign of strength. It’s hard to imagine that making a request of someone or asking them to assist in any way could be a good thing. They often believe that they are the only ones who can solve their problems. This can manifest when someone complains about having to do so much of the work where they’re employed until it’s revealed that it’s because they don’t delegate and insist on doing everything themselves.

Coaching Approach

There seems to be some shame involved in asking for help, as if your client will be judged poorly. Or it creates a feeling of vulnerability, which is uncomfortable or unfamiliar. Your role is to help them realize that asking for help is a sign of strength. It proves they’re human, and that there’s no need to allow pride to get in the way of making something easier.

ELIMINATING OBSTACLES

Each of the themes in this category has to do with an obstacle that is keeping a person from moving forward.

Ignoring Intuition

Intuitions are not to be ignored. They represent data processed too fast for the conscious mind to comprehend.

— Sherlock Holmes

We often receive warning signs or signals and choose to ignore them or, at best, acknowledge them and still proceed as planned. Despite obvious evidence of the Titanic sinking, a passenger thought, “I’ll keep on dancing. This ship was built to last and will never sink.” Ignoring intuition can manifest as refusing to believe what we already know deep down.

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After receiving a recommendation, Bruce hired someone to add new links to his website. After agreeing on a price and being reassured that it was a small job and would only take a few days, more than a week passed. When it wasn’t completed within two weeks, he sent emails and called and was assured it would be completed long before his deadline. Each week, Bruce contacted the person and was assured not to worry and to be patient. As his coach, I helped him pay more attention to his “inner knowing” that the job might not happen. With the deadline approaching, Bruce finally hired another web designer who completed the job in two days.

Red flags are constantly present — revealing and pointing something out. Yet, too often people are too busy to pay attention, are relying on their intentions or impulses, or are not truly present. That’s when they choose (sometimes subconsciously) to ignore the signals. It costs them time, money, and energy.

Coaching Approach

When a red flag (or warning) shows up, you can help your client become more aware of their intuition and make conscious decisions in the moment.

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