The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey

Author:Stephen R. Covey [Covey, Stephen R.]
Language: eng
Format: epub, azw3, mobi
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ISBN: 9780743269513
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Publisher: Free Press
Published: 1989-01-01T05:00:00+00:00

Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Part Three Public Victory

Paradigms of Interdependence

There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity

-- Samuel Johnso

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Before moving into the area of Public Victory, we should remember that effective interdependence can only be built on a foundation of true independence. Private Victory precedes Public Victory. Algebra comes before calculus.

As we look back and survey the terrain to determine where we've been and where we are in relationship to where we're going, we clearly see that we could not have gotten where we are without coming the way we came. There aren't any other roads; there aren't any shortcuts. There's no way to parachute into this terrain. The landscape ahead is covered with the fragments of broken relationships of people who have tried. They've tried to jump into effective relationships without the maturity, the strength of character, to maintain them.

But you just can't do it; you simply have to travel the road. You can't be successful with other people if you haven't paid the price of success with yourself.

A few years ago when I was giving a seminar on the Oregon coast, a man came up to me and said, “You know, Stephen, I really don't enjoy coming to these seminars.” He had my attention.

“Look at everyone else here,” he continued. "Look at this beautiful coastline and the sea out there and all that's happening. All I can do is sit and worry about the grilling I'm going to get from my wife tonight on the phone.

"She gives me the third degree every time I'm away. Where did I eat breakfast? Who else was there? Was I in meetings all morning? When did we stop for lunch? What did I do during lunch? How did I spend the afternoon? What did I do for entertainment in the evening? Who was with me? What did we talk about?

“And what she really wants to know, but never quite asks, is who she can call to verify everything I tell her. She just nags me and questions everything I do whenever I'm away. It's taken the bloom out of this whole experience. I really don't enjoy it at all.”

He did look pretty miserable. We talked for a while, and then he made a very interesting comment. “I guess she knows all the questions to ask,” he said a little sheepishly. “It was at a seminar like this that I met her when I was married to someone else!”

I considered the implications of his comment and then said, “You're kind of into 'quick fix,' aren't you?”

“What do you mean?” he replied.

“Well, you'd like to take a screwdriver and just open up your wife's head and rewire that attitude of hers really fast, wouldn't you?”

“Sure, I'd like her to change,” he exclaimed. “I don't think it's right for her to constantly grill me like she does.”

“My friend,” I said, “you can't talk your way out of problems you behave yourself into.”

We're dealing with a very dramatic and very fundamental Paradigm Shift here.

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