Queens of Mean by Dickinson Shirley Babilya;

Author:Dickinson, Shirley Babilya;
Language: eng
Format: epub
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Publisher: Hamilton Books
Published: 2012-08-15T00:00:00+00:00

Chapter 9

Miss Arrogance

Arrogance—definition, a person who has a proudly contemptuous feeling or showing self-importance and contempt or disregard for others. For some reason, girls who grow up feeling a sense of entitlement tend to be arrogant toward other women (and sometimes toward men too). We can help today’s girls to watch and learn from the mistakes of other women, and as parents we can look for teachable moments to follow-up with a discussion about the respectful treatment of others. The Queens of Mean can hide arrogance from the principal, the coach, camera, the boss, or their parents but other girls know and can feel their contempt. A perfect example of such a situation is with the recent suspension of a sports reporter of notoriety for television. She was caught on camera at a local business displaying contempt toward a towing company’s lady attendant. Her car was reported as towed while she was out to dinner and she then had to go to get the car. I watched the video recording of her rant was on headline morning news in April 2015. Video showed that she stood at the window of the attendant and said things like “Do you feel good about your job?” She was being warned by the towing company’s attendant that she was being recorded, but she went on and on, “Maybe if I was missing some teeth, they would hire me huh? Oh, like yours? They look so stunning (criticizing attendant) cause I’m on television and you’re in a fu**cking trailer honey?” Then, her parting comment was “Lose some weight” as she walked away. The video became public on local and national news broadcasts and people responded over social media outlets and to her employer. This is the powerful collective voice of bystanders who stick together to change things. This is an excellent recent example of a woman who regrets her initial response, has had time to think about her actions after her suspension and recognized that others need to be treated with respect. The sports reporter posted an apology on Twitter, saying she allowed her emotions to get away from her during a stressful situation at a local business. She said some insulting and regrettable things. She admitted that she should always choose to be respectful and take the high road. This is a great opportunity for parents to discuss the situation with their daughters, or for educators to show this posted apology of a woman learning from her actions, but now leading the way to be kind and make things right again. Everyone makes mistakes, and nobody is perfect.

Now, let’s imagine girls growing up with friends who treat them with arrogance, a total disregard for your child’s feelings. Maybe you have encouraged your child to be friends with the neighbor girls, or maybe she is trying to fit in to their arrogant crowd. As parents, we must remind our children that there are some crowds that it is better to NOT join in, and behaviors to stay away from.

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