DIY Rules for a WTF World: How to Speak Up, Get Creative, and Change the World by Krista Suh

Author:Krista Suh
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Self-Help / Personal Growth / Self-Esteem, Self-Help / Creativity, Business & Economics / Leadership, Biography & Autobiography / Social Activists, Political Science / Political Process / Political Advocacy
Publisher: Grand Central Publishing
Published: 2018-01-16T05:00:00+00:00

EXERCISE

People Say Yes to Me

“People say yes to me”—say it hundreds of times, as needed.

“People say yes to me”—write it, hundreds of times, as needed.

“People say yes to me”—think it, arm yourself with it, each time you start a new ask.

I used to walk around with this belief: people say no to me. When I received a no, I would add this as another piece of evidence to the treatise “people say no to me.” This overriding thought made me shrug off the times people did say yes to me as a fluke, and I hardly remembered them because I wasn’t keeping a list of times “people said yes to me,” I was so busy with the “no” list. One day, I realized that I had to change this thought because it was making me an anxious, deluded mess.

I introduced a new belief, a mantra: People say yes to me. As you can imagine, since I had been believing the opposite for so long, I had to repeat the mantra “people say yes to me” many times before it could take hold and replace the old belief. But it worked. Now I go around thinking people say yes to me, and if I get a no, I shrug that off as a fluke. I have so many instances and stories and memories of people saying “yes!” to me now! Notice that it doesn’t even matter how many yeses and how many nos I’m getting. Neither “people say no to me” NOR “people say yes to me” is correct 100 percent of the time, but which one serves me more? By far, the winner of this bout is “people say yes to me.” When I have that as my operating thought, when I enter a situation with an ask, I am confident and glowing with excitement, eager to share why the person I’m talking to will LOVE saying yes. I’m not entering the situation steeling myself for a “no.” It’s an amazing little trick that WORKS!

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