Alchemy of Awareness by Raelene Byrne

Author:Raelene Byrne
Language: eng
Format: epub

Expectations…

LETTING GO OF your expectations, something that is well advised, is often easier said than done. One of the outcomes of not having expectations met, is a level of disappointment when our reality is not matched, which can then take us to a place of self-judgement.

Expectation is the mother of all disappointment!

Expectations are our perceived ideas of an outcome we wish, desire, try to predict, over think, or dream up, in order to induce a feeling within ourselves. We have NO control over another person’s response or reaction to anything we do, say or offer.

Many of us tend to let our minds create an outcome for a situation, something that we think we want as a form of validation or recognition. Our minds only know what it has been fed via information we digest, experiences, conditionings, patterns, beliefs we absorb from family and society. Therefore, our thinking is about what we already know. Expectations come from what we know, not from the spaciousness of the unknown.

Yet many of us tend to let our mind create an outcome for a situation, something that we think we want as a form of validation or recognition. We spend time creating what we THINk is the way things need to be, often playing out old limiting beliefs, not allowing something wonderful to arise. It is like we shut the door on potential.

Expectations in reality are imposing our limitations onto a perceived outcome.

There is no flow, no trust, no spaciousness about what may be better for the situation or person.

Perhaps you have gone out of your way to create something delightful for your partner, parents, sibling or friend. You watch the response and it isn’t what you thought it ‘should’ be, you are left feeling deflated and unappreciated to some degree.

This is what happens…you are reacting to your expectation, or trying to control the external reaction. You had a vision, or idea of how you wanted the recipient to respond, which would give you a feeling you needed.

First step, remove the words ‘should’ and ‘might’ from your vocabulary and life! You either do things or you don’t. As soon as we say I should, or you should, we have set up an expectation and there is no commitment to follow through, so the outcome will be disappointing.

When we utilise ‘should’, it is a request for an external action or thing to fill us or help us to feel something. Time to start visiting your inner world and taking steps proactively to create a world and life of wonderment about what could possibly occur.

Know that you have done all you can to make the event, situation, desire clear. Then openheartedly allow what else is available, what other energy could be created by this moment in time.

Instead of looking for the response, or reaction externally, whatever it is you think you need to feel, give it to you first. When you have that within you, nothing will disappoint you, and you will not be living with expectations.

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