What Women Want When They Test Men by What Women Want When They Test Men

Author:What Women Want When They Test Men
Language: eng
Format: mobi
Published: 2014-04-20T22:00:00+00:00

Chapter 6:

Being the Rock a Woman Needs

Don’t Be Who You’re Supposed to Be

A lot of guys who suffer in their relationships with women seem to have one thing in common. They burn a ton of energy trying to do the right thing to make a woman happy. Nothing frustrates a woman more than a man who’s always trying to monitor his words and actions just to keep her on the level and pleased.

In the short-term, this may seem like a good plan. I mean, why wouldn’t it work? If she throws some drama your way, you can just say or do something completely predictable, passive, and non-confrontational just to keep things the way they are. Unfortunately, over the long-term this is a recipe for relationship failure.

Obviously, if she’s throwing some drama your way it’s because she wants something from you. And chances are the very thing that she wants is for you to say or do something completely unexpected. She might be looking for something different, something better than what she’s been experiencing with you, something authentic and one-hundred percent masculine. But what do most men do instead? They opt for the easy way out, and give her something she’s seen before, something uninspired, something vanilla.

Here’s the thing. When a woman feels uncertain about you she may purposefully push your buttons in a manner that will result in you responding negatively. In short, she’s actually setting you up for failure. Deep down inside, she hopes that you will prove her suspicions wrong and pass her test with flying colors. But in the event that you do fail, she’s already decided that her attempts to ascertain who you are will only intensify as time goes on.

If a man spends most of his time trying to do everything he thinks a woman wants him to do, he’s already failed. When a woman tests you consciously or subconsciously, she wants to get a sense of the REAL you. If you’re always saying what you think she wants you to say or doing what you think she wants you to do just to make her happy and please her, she’ll never get a true feeling for your authentic masculine nature.

Because of this, she’ll keep on fabricating situations designed to force the real you out. If you don’t know who you are (because you’re always trying to be someone else to please her) she certainly won’t know who you are. And for a woman, she’s not going to ease up until she convinces you to drop the mask and just be the man YOU want to be.

As with anything related to handling a woman’s congruence tests, it’s all about the mindset. If you approach your interactions with a woman from a “no risk” mindset, you’re free to respond from a place of authenticity. In other words, you’re free to be the man you are and act with integrity.

Having a mindset that there is no “right” or “wrong” in how you interact with your woman is powerful because it sets you free from trying to please her every time you relate with her.

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