The New Bottoming Book by Easton Dossie & Hardy Janet W

Author:Easton, Dossie & Hardy, Janet W. [Easton, Dossie]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: SCB Distributors
Published: 2011-07-31T23:00:00+00:00

SPIRITUAL STATES: Many players report that the feelings they have in playing a great scene can only be described as spiritual. Some people may feel they leave their body, others feel an intense psychic connection, or perhaps an awakening of kundalini, the snake that represents the spiritual energy that can be felt in the spine. Sometimes we may envision ourselves shape-shifted into a totem animal, and writhe like a panther under the whip. Another time we may become a god. Or maybe our top becomes goddess.

If this is where you go when the play goes well, it’s a good idea to discuss it with your top beforehand, especially if you tend to leave your body during play. Some tops love it, and feel like they fly right along with you – others may feel abandoned, and want to stay connected in some more tangible way.

GETTING BIGGER, GETTING SMALLER: Some bottoms see themselves as warriors, conquering an ordeal, an initiation, triumphing over the obstacles presented by their top. They want to find their strength in an ordeal, and they want their tops to be strong enough to challenge them. Others, or maybe the same people at different times, want to get small. They want to become invisible, helpless, overwhelmed, they want to dissolve. They love to enter into struggle and lose, to be conquered, to give it up to a powerful and inexorable top.

Whether you like to get bigger or smaller, you need to cooperate with your top. Your top may have her own limits about playing with unconquerable or invisible bottoms, and she needs a chance to figure out what’s coming and express her own needs. The following story will illustrate the importance of negotiating the direction of the scene beforehand.

A friend of ours was topping an interrogation scene in which she set out to conquer the bottom and get him all soft and squishy, as she imagined was her task. The bottom in this case, however, in his own fantasy saw himself as nobly suffering and refusing to give in no matter how hard it was: in short, wanted to conquer an ordeal. It soon became obvious that they were working at cross purposes in the scene, and the bottom eventually, and appropriately, safeworded out.

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